This is Ask Lisa, a podcast to help people understand the psychology of parenting, now in the midst of a pandemic.

Psychologist Dr. Lisa DeMore, author of two New York Times best-selling parenting books, takes your questions.

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at dr. Lisa demour.com episode 39 how do I get my kids to stop fighting?

I like that despite the pandemic, there are some things that will continue. I don't,

I can't say I like it, but sibling rivalries. Issues with brothers and sisters and sisters,

oh my gosh, it never ends. I know. I know. It is very common in households that kids go at it with

each other. So we need help, especially the summer's coming and more time, more time together.

And we got this letter. It says, Dear Lisa, needless to say,

I love your podcast. And I've already learned so much about my kids and myself. Thank you. It's all

been very helpful. I'm a single mom of two pre-teenage boys, 10 and 11, and a full-time self-employed

photographer. They don't fight that much, but I find myself clueless on what to do when they do. They're together almost 24-7, and although they have their own rooms, it's getting electric.

They have different personalities, and being so young, they don't understand each other and don't care about trying.

They always feel it's unfair. I feel that it could escalate as they get older. Do you have any recommendations

on how to manage sibling relationships in today's situation? Thank you. Man, I am hearing this

so much that in the pandemic, especially, Sibs have really gotten on each other's nerves a lot.

Why do they fight so much?

There's a lot of reasons.

There's, one is just boredom. They're bored.

And a lot of kids have been very bored in the pandemic.

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