387 SelfWork: Six Misconceptions That Keep Couples Away from Therapy
The SelfWork Podcast
Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD
4.8 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 29 March 2024
⏱️ 25 minutes
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Summary
This week we’re going to be talking about couples therapy – and what misconceptions keep couples away from trying it. I can’t tell you how wonderful it is when a couple comes in WAY before there’s a crisis. But most don't. And these misconceptions are often the culprit; these six misconceptions keep couples out of therapy which also acts to help them avoid vulnerability.
What are some of these misconceptions? You're no longer in control. It takes too long and it's too expensive. Individual therapy is better than couples. And I'll also add some direct suggestions for those who might be talking about divorce.
Hope you'll listen in!
The listener email is one I won’t read. But it made me want to share a couple of my thoughts about why I do this podcast, and what I hope you take from it. And what I hope you don’t.
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | This is self-work and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. At self-work we discuss psychological and emotional issues and what you can do about them. |
| 0:15.7 | Whether that's learning self-acceptance, taking action, or seeking therapy or treatment. |
| 0:21.5 | Eight years ago, I extended the walls of my practice to reach those of you |
| 0:25.2 | who might already be knowledgeable about mental health treatment, but also to those of you |
| 0:29.5 | who might say you'd never darken the door of a therapist. |
| 0:33.2 | And yet you are here. |
| 0:35.1 | I'll answer your questions while I invite you |
| 0:37.3 | to take a few minutes for your own self-work. |
| 0:40.0 | What do I mean about misconceptions? There's a story you tell yourself about why |
| 0:48.0 | couples therapy just isn't for you or won't help or is a waste of time. |
| 0:53.0 | And those reasons also serve as a great way |
| 0:56.0 | to avoid the fear of vulnerability |
| 0:58.0 | that is part of the therapy process. |
| 1:02.0 | Welcome to this week's edition of Self Work. |
| 1:07.0 | Hello to all of you. I said last week that we were going to focus on |
| 1:11.0 | HSP or highly sensitive people this week and I've received |
| 1:15.1 | a couple of comments and questions from you. I'd love to receive more and it was |
| 1:19.3 | spring break for many many people here in the US last week. So I thought I'd ask again. If you |
| 1:25.9 | identify yourself as highly sensitive, what kind of issues or problems has that |
| 1:30.5 | brought for you? How do you handle that fact in your own relationships? |
| 1:34.5 | Or what questions do you have? |
| 1:36.5 | The email from last week was from a listener who said she's trying to figure out her own |
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