381: Rejection, Abandonment & Building More Confidence
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Havilah Cunnington
4.9 • 2.1K Ratings
🗓️ 19 November 2025
⏱️ 36 minutes
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Summary
In today’s episode, we’re digging into the real story behind rejection, abandonment, and the confidence it takes to shut down the negative narratives trying to shape your life.
I share how my dad’s early years were marked by abandonment and self-rejection—and how everything changed when he met Jesus. I was raised in love and safety, but that same generational thread still tried to attach itself to my story.If you’ve ever felt like you’re fighting patterns you didn’t choose… this conversation is for you.
What we cover:
Why rejection and abandonment often feel “normal” in our thoughts
The moment I realized those same narratives were knocking on my door
How generational patterns try to repeat themselves
The choice we all face when negative thoughts show up
What it looks like to reject self-abandonment and stay connected
How God actively orchestrates healing, confidence, and freedom
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome back to another episode of Howlis podcast. |
| 0:08.4 | We're continuing at Best of Series featuring the most played episodes from the past four years. |
| 0:14.0 | These are the conversations that have deeply impacted and encouraged our listeners. |
| 0:18.3 | And this week's message is no exception. |
| 0:23.3 | From 2022, rejection abandonment and building our confidence is one of those timeless messages that remind us of who we are |
| 0:28.1 | and whose we are, even in seasons of pain. Whether this is your first listen or a return to a favorite, |
| 0:34.5 | I believe it's going to strengthen and encourage your heart today. |
| 0:38.1 | All right, let's dive into today's episode. |
| 0:41.0 | I grew up in a pretty normal home. My mom and dad loved each other. They didn't come from, |
| 0:47.4 | they came from, my mom came from a pretty healthy home. My dad came from a healthy home in some |
| 0:52.0 | ways, but mostly not healthy. |
| 0:55.7 | It's kind of confusing. |
| 1:03.8 | And basically, I was raised somewhat in a bubble of certain things in life, which the reason I'm telling you that is because what I'm about to tell you, I want you to understand |
| 1:07.5 | how it works in our own lives. |
| 1:09.8 | Because just because we're not raised around something doesn't mean we're not touched by it. |
| 1:14.5 | And it doesn't mean we don't need tools for it. |
| 1:17.5 | So my dad was raised in a political home. |
| 1:21.5 | His father was a congressman. |
| 1:23.9 | And he had three siblings. |
| 1:26.1 | And then he had his twin brother in himself. Well, when his mom got |
| 1:30.3 | pregnant with him, his grandmother or grandfather, I should say my grandfather, his dad wanted nothing |
| 1:36.9 | to do with him. He didn't want to have another baby. He wanted to have, he didn't want to have |
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