This is Hello Freedom and I'm your host Terry Cole.

For almost two decades I've been a licensed psychotherapist and transformation coach, and on this show I will bring you simple strategies based on practical psychology, inspiring expert interviews, and my own insights and observations from my time on the front lines of the fascinating

worlds of entertainment, impairment, and mental health.

Now let's get going with today's episode. Well, hello, and welcome to Hello Freedom. As you know, I am are host Terry Cole.

Super psyched, you guys are hanging out with me today.

Talking about one of my favorite topics, which is female friendships.

And on the flip side of that talking about female meanness or sort of the

mean girl syndrome and how do we change that? How can we actually do something to make that different in society and who is already

doing something to change that? So I want you guys to take a deep breath and think back in your life

when you were in middle school or grammar school,

were you the mean girl,

or were you the one who was being the victim of a mean girl.

Think about it.

There's a pecking order that happens societally as we are growing up and I cannot tell you how many clients have come to me having regrets about how they acted in fifth, sixth, seventh, eighth grade, feeling terrible.

And I'm pretty sure the person they victimized, I imagine, has moved on or has worked it out in therapy or I'm not sure what but so we

really need guidelines we really need something in place that can actually

teach young women how to be supportive,

how to be real friends, and the fact that we're all in the same place. We're all afraid to be vulnerable, whether you're in

seventh grade or whether you're 40, right? We're all afraid of being rejected.

We all want to be accepted. So why do we want to be accepted in the

cool kid group? Because we want to be in the group, right? That's part of our

nature. So this leads me into my amazing guest who I'm

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