378 SelfWork: Tina Turner Takes A Seat: How to Accept Change In Your Family
The SelfWork Podcast
Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD
4.8 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 26 January 2024
⏱️ 19 minutes
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Summary
I’ve pulled what is the most downloaded episode of SelfWork’s history today because I've had to step off the stage again in my work to allow my body and mind to heal. Two weeks ago, I was in a huge hurry, bounding down my staircase, talking to my husband over my shoulder, in my clumsy Uggs boots – and I managed to pull off a head over heels tumble down the steps, eight or nine of them – and landed on a slate floor. Broken collarbone, mild concussion, and so many bumps and bruises... we won’t even go there.
I’m doing okay. Having some nightmares – which I suspected I would. My body is healing. My husband has been incredible. But I obviously got way behind – and so today I turn to Tina Turner who died this past year for a little inspiration for all of you.
This episode is about a night in my own life, when I realized that I needed to take a different role in my family. It’s what happens in healthy families. The change felt odd. But I realize now that it was the beginning of what should have been and needed to be. I think I love this concept so much because it uses a stage analogy. Roles change in families. And accepting those changes is part of being healthy in your own role, both on your own stage and the stage of your family.
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| 0:00.0 | This is self-work and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Here at self-work we discuss psychological and emotional issues and what you can do about them. |
| 0:15.8 | Whether that's learning self-acceptance, taking action, or seeking therapy or treatment. |
| 0:21.5 | Eight years ago, I extended the walls of my practice to reach those of you |
| 0:25.0 | who are already very knowledgeable about mental health treatment but also to those of you |
| 0:29.5 | who might say you'd never dark in the door of a therapist. |
| 0:33.2 | And yet you are here. |
| 0:35.1 | I'll answer your questions. |
| 0:36.4 | While I invite you to take a few minutes |
| 0:38.7 | for your own self-work. |
| 0:40.6 | But often people are so afraid of aging they won't step back. That's what |
| 0:50.4 | empty nest is all about right? You back up, let go. |
| 0:54.0 | Letting go takes awareness and intention. |
| 0:58.0 | Welcome to this week's edition of Self- Work. |
| 1:04.2 | This week I've pulled what is the most downloaded episode of Self-Works history today because |
| 1:09.7 | I've had to step off the stage again in my work to allow my body and mind to heal. Two weeks ago I was in a huge |
| 1:16.8 | hurry bounding down my staircase, talking to my husband over my shoulder in my clumsy |
| 1:22.3 | uggs boots and I managed to pull a head |
| 1:25.2 | over heels tumble down the steps eight or nine of them in fact and landed on a slate |
| 1:29.7 | floor broken collarbone mild concussion and so many bumps and bruises we won't even go there. |
| 1:36.1 | I'm doing okay. I have some nightmares which I expected I would, but my body is healing |
| 1:41.8 | my husband has been incredible, but I obviously got way behind. |
| 1:46.1 | And so today I turned to Tina Turner, who died this past year. |
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