Welcome back to the Boss Bay Podcast, this one the mini one, with something that has been on my mind.

You come here for the real, I'm going to give you the real.

A big reason that I left LA. Yes, I wanted a different kind of lifestyle that I was going to get in Austin. I love that. I knew I want to start a family in Austin.

So there are many of those kinds of reasons and another reason which I know is a big reason other people that I know left to is I was really sick of having so many transactional relationships. Now granted I did have a really

close-knit circle of best friends who I do miss and I had a wider circle where it felt like there were a lot of transactional relationships.

Right? Let's talk about what a transactional relationship is.

So essentially it's like interactions that feel like they're based purely on exchange, whether it's service, favors,

all that stuff, especially in business, these are really common.

And I've ended a big transactional relationship over the last couple of years and it has been incredibly freeing and really I don't feel like I'm open to have many transactional relationships to be quite honest like in that kind of relationship it feels like each person is looking out for what they can gain and often

sidelining that emotional or deeper bond that could potentially develop because you know it's not necessarily that's the

intention but when you are networking with a lot of people when you're just kind of in and out

especially in a place like

Ella, it's always about what this, what can this person do for me?

And that was a very new kind of culture for me to step into coming from where I came from.

So it's very much like, I'll do this for you if you do that for me.

But what happens when we strip away the transaction?

Often, there is not much left.

And if you only have transactional relationships, it can leave people feeling really unfulfilled and

disconnected. And I noticed that myself and I would notice, you know, there were certain

invitations that I felt like I couldn't say no to and when I really dug into it it was because I felt like

There was some kind of transaction there like I had to show up for them because they came to my thing or you know everyone was doing

something for someone else they share this you share that kind of thing and I just feel

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