378 Beyond Exhausted? Strategic Incompetence Might Be to Blame

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Terri Cole

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🗓️ 15 February 2022

⏱️ 20 minutes

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Summary

Do you feel like you are the only person in your life who knows how to do anything correctly? Have you ever asked your partner or your teenager to do something, and they come back with “But you do it so much better…” or “I don’t know how…” OR wait so long to start that you just end up doing it? What if the people in your life are pretending to be less competent than they are to get you to do more than your share? Let that sink in. If you are overworking, overdoing, and, if you’re honest, resentful and burnt out, you might want to learn about strategic (or weaponized) incompetence. In today’s podcast, I break down this manipulation tactic and share how you can begin to step back from overfunctioning and move towards a more equitable distribution of labor in your life. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/378 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Well, hello there and welcome to another episode of the Terry Cole show.
0:04.6	I want to start this episode with a question.
0:07.2	Do you ever feel like you are literally the only person who knows how to do anything right?
0:14.4	Be honest. Do you feel that way?
0:17.0	What if I told you that might just be an illusion?
0:19.7	Or other people might be pretending to be less competent than they actually are to get you to do
0:26.0	more than your share?
0:29.0	Wow, that would not feel good.
0:31.5	That actually has an aim and it is called weaponized incompetence.
0:37.4	So in today's episode I am breaking down what is weaponized incompetence or strategic incompetence
0:44.2	is sometimes called. And I'm giving you some questions that you can answer in the guide
0:49.2	which you can get at Terry Cole dot com forward slash guide.
0:52.4	And I'm also going to give you some sentence starters if you need to have a conversation
0:57.9	with someone about their weaponized incompetence.
1:01.7	So hey, if you're new to this crew, my name is Terry Cole and I'm a licensed psychotherapist
1:06.0	and I'm also the author of boundary boss which you can get at boundary boss book dot com.
1:11.6	And I want to take just a moment of time to say thank you, thank you, thank you for being here.
1:16.0	I so appreciate you. If you want to support the show, it helps me immensely.
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1:34.8	And she says teaching us to be strong. Terry has been a game changer for me.
1:39.6	I love her knowledge and wisdom. I'm being a boundary boss and all the amazing
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