#373: Common Thought after a Breakup: Did They Ever Really Love You?? (post-breakup advice)

breakup BOOST Advice to Get Over Your Ex & More

Trina Leckie

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🗓️ 13 March 2025

⏱️ 10 minutes

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Summary

One of the hardest parts of a breakup is wondering: Did they ever actually love me? Was it real, or was I just convenient? In this episode, we’re cutting through the confusion and getting honest about what real love looks like.

I’ll break down key red flags that will hopefully give you some insight for your personal situation, share relatable analogies, and help you stop overanalyzing whether they loved you - so you can start focusing on loving yourself the way you deserve.... and MOVING FORWARD in peace. Listen NOW!

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Transcript

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0:00.0	You're listening to Breakup Boost, honest and logical advice with the sprinkle of bluntness.
0:07.0	Trina keeps it real.
0:08.3	She'll help you navigate the craziness of the modern dating world.
0:11.3	Stop obsessing over your ex and finally close the door on half-ass relationships.
0:15.7	This girl's got you back.
0:17.2	Here's Trina.
0:20.0	I don't want this episode to hurt anybody, but the reality is this.
0:25.8	When you face the truth, you're going to heal faster.
0:30.2	But when you live in denial or avoid the truth, it's inevitable that you're going to stay stuck.
0:36.3	And what happens is you end up romanticizing something
0:40.2	that doesn't even deserve to be put on a pedestal.
0:44.1	And I don't want anyone staying stuck, so here we are.
0:47.5	On this episode, I wanted to touch on the topic of
0:50.6	Did they ever really love you?
0:54.0	One of the most painful thoughts after a breakup is wondering,
0:58.7	did they ever actually love me?
1:01.6	Or was it all just a lie?
1:04.1	Were they just using me while I made them my main storyline?
1:08.8	Because if they loved me, well, how could they leave? How could they move on so
1:14.5	fast? They said that we would be together forever. It's like if someone ordered a meal at a restaurant
1:21.2	and then took one bite, said they loved it, said it was so tasty like the best meal that they've had in a long while.
1:29.8	But then they just tossed the whole plate in the garbage and you're like, huh?
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