I think in some ways to understand the law of love, you have to understand transaction.

That's why I keep using the word because you have to lose yourself.

And what that really means is that anything that makes you feel special, by definition, is pretty

transactional.

In other words, I'm unique.

I'm better.

It's a judgment and othering and are all transactional words.

So much of our life, so much of everything we do is transactional subtly, somewhat more

dramatic, but all of it is self-interested and will rot in self-interest.

And so I think if we care about relationships, hell we are willing to take this truth

and chew on it and recognize, you know, how about me? What are my relationships

and how can I become a healer in a weird, ironic way by losing the very thing that I spent

my whole life gathering, which is my degree and my education and my sophistication. And I want

to bring into every relationship because that's who I am.

That's my truth.

Let it be true regardless.

I don't need to be acclaimed.

It's just it is.

As you try it and do it more, you develop a piece around who you are.

You're more present.

I don't need to carry so much.

It's a lighter load.

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