358. Fear of Forgetting Your Person
The Widowed Mom Podcast
Krista St-Germain
4.9 • 695 Ratings
🗓️ 6 April 2026
⏱️ 13 minutes
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Summary
What if the memories you hold most dear started to fade? Would that mean losing your person all over again?
The fear of forgetting your person is something many widows quietly carry, and it can feel just as painful as the loss itself. In this episode, I share my own experience with the fear of forgetting your person - worrying about losing the sound of their voice, their quirks, and the tiny details that made them who they were - and what I’ve come to understand about this fear.
Tune in this week to learn why forgetting details is completely human and doesn’t mean you’re losing your person. We’ll also talk about how connection evolves over time, and releasing the pressure to remember everything and embracing new ways to stay connected without fear.
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| 0:00.0 | Before we jump into today's episode, I want to let you know about the widow confidence reset. |
| 0:06.1 | It's a free three-day live event where I'll teach you why confidence drops after loss, |
| 0:12.4 | why your brain keeps making you second guess yourself, and how to begin trusting yourself again. |
| 0:18.2 | It's simple, practical, and designed to help you feel more steady and |
| 0:22.8 | clear. Go to Coaching with Krista.com forward slash reset to save your spot. Now, on to the episode. |
| 0:35.5 | Welcome to the Widowed Mom podcast, episode 358, fear of forgetting your person. |
| 0:44.6 | Welcome to the Widowed Mom podcast, the only podcast that offers a proven process to help you work through your grief to grow, evolve, and create a future you can |
| 0:56.6 | truly look forward to. |
| 0:58.6 | Here's your host, master certified life coach, grief expert, widow, and mom, Krista St. |
| 1:05.3 | Jermaine. |
| 1:07.3 | Hey there, welcome to another episode of the podcast. |
| 1:10.8 | Today we're talking about something that comes up for almost every widow at some point. |
| 1:15.3 | And if it hasn't come up for you yet, it probably will. |
| 1:18.5 | And that is the fear of forgetting your person. |
| 1:21.6 | Forgetting their voice, forgetting the way that they smelled, forgetting the little things that made them them. I remember |
| 1:29.0 | worrying about this so much after Hugo died. I was afraid I would forget the sound of his laugh. |
| 1:34.8 | I was afraid I would forget the tiny details that made him unique, the way he got fired up about |
| 1:40.0 | things, the way he brought me my coffee in the morning, all the little quirks that only the |
| 1:45.2 | people closest to him really knew. My brain was already convinced that I had a terrible |
| 1:49.9 | memory, so that fear felt very real. Now, the interesting thing is that when widows talk about |
| 1:56.1 | this fear, it often sounds like the problem is memory. But over time, what I've come to believe is that the fear of forgetting isn't really about memory. It's about connection. When someone you love dies, you lose their physical presence. You can't see them. You can't touch them. You can't talk to them. You can't laugh with them the way that you used to. And so memories can start |
| 2:18.3 | to feel like the last thread connecting you to them, which makes it feel incredibly scary if those |
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