#358 – Aella: Sex Work, OnlyFans, Porn, Escorting, Dating, and Human Sexuality
Lex Fridman Podcast
Lex Fridman
4.7 • 13.6K Ratings
🗓️ 10 February 2023
⏱️ 242 minutes
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(00:00) – Introduction
(06:14) – Uncertainty
(13:51) – Sex, power, and death
(26:21) – Free will
(27:46) – Consciousness
(37:41) – Childhood
(50:39) – Dancing
(1:03:56) – Casual sex
(1:06:10) – Camming
(1:21:05) – OnlyFans
(1:31:19) – Dating
(1:47:11) – Escorting
(2:05:12) – Emotion vs reason
(2:13:17) – Love
(2:20:50) – Polyamory
(2:29:44) – Monogamy
(2:36:14) – Sex fetishes
(2:53:42) – Dominance and submissiveness
(3:03:23) – Psychedelics
(3:22:35) – Romance
(3:30:05) – Body count
(3:39:51) – Porn
(3:43:10) – Mortality
(3:45:46) – AI
(3:56:26) – Rationalist discourse
(4:00:18) – Meaning of life
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | The following is a conversation with Aela, a sex researcher who does some of the largest |
| 0:04.8 | human sexuality survey studies in the world on everything from fetishes to relationships. |
| 0:10.8 | She is fearless in pursuing her curiosity on these topics by asking challenging and fascinating |
| 0:15.8 | questions and looking for answers in a rigorous data-driven way and writing about it on her |
| 0:22.5 | blog knowingless.com. |
| 0:25.6 | She is also a sex worker, including only fans and escorting, and is an exceptionally |
| 0:31.4 | prolific creator of thought-provoking Twitter polls. |
| 0:36.1 | Aela and I disagree on a bunch of things, but that just made this conversation even more |
| 0:40.6 | interesting. |
| 0:42.0 | I like interesting people. |
| 0:43.7 | In the full range of the meaning that the word interesting implies. |
| 0:48.0 | I'm currently reading on the road by Jack Kerouac, and would be remiss if I didn't mention |
| 0:54.3 | one of my favorite quotes from that book that feels relevant here. |
| 0:59.4 | The only people for me are the mad ones. |
| 1:02.0 | The ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at |
| 1:08.0 | the same time. |
| 1:09.3 | The ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn, like fabulous, |
| 1:15.7 | yellow Roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars. |
| 1:20.4 | In the middle, you see the blue satellite pop, and everybody goes, ah. |
| 1:27.8 | And now a quick few second mention of each sponsor. |
| 1:31.3 | Check them out in the description. |
| 1:32.8 | It's the best way to support this podcast. |
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