Any conversation about sex is going to be best if the option of not having sex or at least not having sex yet is actually a real option on the table.

If you're in a situation where it feels like we both don't have an option but to have sex right now and therefore any

conversation that doesn't result in us being able to have sex is going to be a bad conversation.

Someone's going to storm out of the room,

someone's going to whine,

someone's going to guilt trip the other person.

Not a good situation.

Just remember, it's entirely possible to have an amazing date,

an amazing couple of dates, or an amazing entire relationship that doesn't ever involve

particular types of sex or sex at all.

Just keep that option open because it makes the other options even better if you do decide on them.

And again, we have to realize that there's not a direct right or wrong answer here sometimes.

It all comes down to each individual's risk tolerance. Risk is something that we do every single day.

Every time you get in a car, every time you take a drink, every time you take drugs, smoke,

walk down the street at night, go to a public gathering, do basically anything,

there's some kind of risk involved.

That includes sex.

Welcome to the Multiamari Podcast.

I'm Jace. I'm Emily and I'm deadaker. We believe in

looking to the future of relationships, not maintaining the status quo of the

past. So whether you're monogamous, polyamorous, swinging, casually dating, or if you just do

relationships differently, we see you and we're here for you.

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