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Today I talk with Dr. Tara and Dr. Tara is a sexual communication expert, a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication at Cal State University Fullerton, an award-winning researcher, a sex and relationship coach at LoveBites.co and the host of LoveBites by Dr. Tara Podcasts, where she focuses on sexual wellness and exercise.

Today Dr. Tara and I get into the top sexual communication practices that we can implement in our relationship today.

I really loved my talk with Dr. Tara. I actually just got off the Zoom meeting with her where we talked for another 15 minutes after I was done recording and just all things relationship and really enjoyed this conversation with her.

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Hi, Dr. Tara. Thanks so much for joining me on the show today. Hi, Chase. Thanks for having me. It's my pleasure.

Today we're going to talk about the top sexual communication practices and how to implement them in our relationships.

And we've definitely talked about improving communication in general, definitely around sex in past episodes, but we can never really cover it enough. And I'm excited to hear your thoughts and tools for communicating around sex.

So I thought we could start with having you tell our listeners why you're particularly passionate about this area of relationships and why we tend to not be so good at communication, but particularly communicating around sex.

I love this question. No, why are we not good at talking about sex question. It's great.

I'm going to tell you a little bit about how I became very interested in this topic. So at the age of 24, I for the first time entered a sex shop.

So before that, I've not been into one. I don't have sex toys. I didn't have sex toys. So that was my first time entering a sex shop and realizing that there's so much self exploration that I haven't done that most people haven't done.

So that was like the first time I was like, wow, what an interesting world. That's so much larger than I had thought.

And in the PhD program, I was studying relationships and communication. And then the more I read about the research, the more I realized that one of the biggest problems couples have is related to sex.

It's either the sex itself or it's the things surrounding sex. And in fact, sex issues is one of the reasons for divorce.

So the more I read the research in this realm, the more I realized, wow, there's so much more to learn and to be done to research because we cannot know enough.

Why is it that sex issues is still one of the top reasons people cite for breakups and divorce.

So that inspired me into studying more about the functioning around sex, which is communication.

Right. And I like to say as, you know, as a sexual communication scholar, I like to say that most sex issues are communication issues.

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