Have you ever looked forward to a vacation for weeks or even months,

and then when it arrives you don't even really enjoy it?

Or are you desperate to just be done with your day and put your feet up,

but when you get home and flop on the couch, you can't seem to relax.

Rest seems like it should be intuitive, but it's actually very hard for some of us to do.

And the same is true of lots of pleasurable things that we look forward to.

On today's episode, I'm going to dive into why we find it so hard to rest or relax or enjoy ourselves

and why it's crucial that we learn how to do those things if we want to experience more happiness.

Welcome to UnFuck Your Brain.

I'm your host Kara Loyenthile, master certified coach, and founder of the School of New Feminist Thumb.

I'm here to help you turn down your anxiety, turn up your confidence,

and create a life on your own terms, one that you're truly excited to live. Let's go.

Welcome back to our mini series on happiness.

Last week we talked about what happiness is and what it means and we talked about the two different types of happiness,

the momentary feeling of pleasure and joy in the body, versus the long-term of a life well-lived and contentment with who you are

and how you showed up for this journey. Today we're going to be diving into the first type of happiness more deeply,

talking about why rest and pleasure are key to being able to create the feeling of happiness in our bodies.

And so, just to reiterate, we're talking about happiness today as an emotion.

The physical sensation in our body caused by our thoughts.

By its nature it is ephemeral and fleeting.

The emotion of happiness comes and goes like any other emotion. Sadness, lonely. the emotion

sadness, sadness, loneliness, shame, anxiety, grief, love,

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