346: UNMET EXPECTATIONS

ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show

Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo

Religion & Spirituality, Sexuality, Kids & Family, Health & Fitness, Christianity

4.6 • 1.7K Ratings

🗓️ 18 October 2016

⏱️ 30 minutes

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Summary

"The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that is has taken place." —George Bernard Shaw When you have certain expectations, your spouse has expectations and yet neither of you communicate them to each other there will be unmet expectations. Each of you will have a level of frustration that you are experiencing. You may even be say things like: I don’t understand why he/she doesn’t know this by now. Isn’t the way we do __________ obvious? Why do I have to spell it out every time? These questions indicate that there are unmet expectations in the marriage. There are areas of your life and marriage that you want your spouse to know or do. And often there is this game played… I’ll wait to see what he/she does. Will my spouse get it right this time. I've said it before. With this attitude you are setting yourself up for frustration. Because... you are constantly growing and changing. your moods are not the same from one day to the next. life experiences have impacted the way that you see things in the relationship. Often your expectations are not being shared in a way that is beneficial to your relationship. You hint at them, voice them after the fact and even said when you are highly emotional. It doesn’t have to be that way. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why your unmet expectations aren’t so obvious to your spouse. EPISODE SPONSOR | Christian Credit Counselors Christian Credit Counselors is a non-profit Credit Counseling and Debt Management organization. For the last 25+ years they have helped over 300 thousand clients, get out of debt. They lower high interest rates and consolidate payments into one affordable monthly payment. Average clients pay off their debt up to 80% faster on the Debt Management Program. Call them today at 1(800)557-1985 for a free no-obligation debt analysis or visit them at ChristianCreditCounselors.org today! Other Resources: Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proved Questions for Couples 287 - The Impact of Tone and Timing Men’s Bamboo Boxer Briefs Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa 19 Quick Questions That Will Rekindle Your Sex Life ASAP Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	From San Diego, California, this is a one extraordinary marriage show.
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0:10.4	I'm Tony Deloreenzo, your co-hosthost along with my beautiful wife, Elisa.
0:14.9	From coast to coast and around the world, thank you for joining us.
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0:22.1	Give us a call at 858, 876, 563.
0:25.6	That's 858, 876, 5663.
0:30.9	In today's show, we talk about why your unmet expectations aren't so obvious to your spouse.
0:37.0	And George Bernard Shaw had this to say about communication, which definitely plays into
0:41.5	unmet expectations.
0:43.4	And he said, the single biggest problem
0:45.3	in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.
0:50.0	And we've had this experience numerous times in our marriage probably more than I would
0:55.2	care to count or even want to admit but it's definitely a factor in unmet expectations and why they
1:01.0	aren't so obvious to in our case one another or in your case in your marriage
1:06.0	And we're going to really be digging into that in today's show but before we go there we start each and every one extraordinary marriage show with a hug and this
1:13.6	week's hug is sponsored by Christian credit counselors and you can find them at
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1:24.9	organization and for the last 25 plus years they have helped over 300,000 clients
1:31.2	get out of debt what What about you? They lower interest rates,
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