342 SelfWork: Five Ways of Dealing with Defensiveness, Enmeshment Dynamics, and Roles Vs Relationships: Your Questions My Answers
The SelfWork Podcast
Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD
4.8 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 2 June 2023
⏱️ 24 minutes
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Summary
Today is an episode filled with your questions and my answers – one of my favorite things to do here on SelfWork! So today the topics are enmeshment, the difference between playing a role in someone’s life and having a relationship, and five ways to deal with defensiveness when you’re trying to have a conversation with a parent about the past. Great topics and questions! And I’m sure many of you can more than relate!
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| 0:00.0 | This is Selfwork, and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. |
| 0:14.1 | At Selfwork, we'll discuss psychological and emotional issues common in today's world |
| 0:19.0 | and what to do about them. |
| 0:20.4 | I'm Dr. Margaret, and Selfwork is a podcast dedicated to you taking just a few minutes today |
| 0:26.2 | for your own Selfwork. |
| 0:29.8 | Hello, and welcome, or welcome back to Selfwork. |
| 0:32.6 | I'm Dr. Margaret, a clinical psychologist, and I started this podcast almost seven years |
| 0:38.2 | ago now. |
| 0:39.2 | Gosh, that's a long time. |
| 0:41.2 | In order to extend the walls of my practice to those of you who might already be very interested |
| 0:45.6 | in psychological and emotional issues, maybe you're in therapy, but would be interested |
| 0:50.1 | in what another therapist had to say to those of you who are maybe looking for answers |
| 0:54.5 | or confused about something in your life that has some emotional or mental health aspects |
| 0:59.6 | to it, and also to a third group of you, those who might be a bit skeptical about this |
| 1:05.0 | whole mental health thing, especially therapy, but you're interested enough, or unfortunately, |
| 1:11.0 | unhappy enough, to be looking for answers yourself. |
| 1:14.2 | So welcome to all of you to Selfwork. |
| 1:17.1 | Today's an episode filled with your questions, and my answer is just like I promised last |
| 1:21.7 | week, and it's one of my favorite things to do here on Selfwork. |
| 1:25.9 | So today, the topics are in measurement, and I've actually got two different questions |
| 1:30.0 | about it. |
| 1:31.3 | The difference between playing a role in someone's life and having a relationship, so what's |
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