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Hi guys. Today we are going to do an episode that is all about aging and it's going to be

about the way that we feel about it. If we have any insecurities around it, our best tips.

And because we just experienced a milestone 40 years old.

40th birthday.

Uh-huh. Uh-huh. We are going to, well, actually just tell us how you felt about it.

So 40ing it, first of all, I like birthdays.

So there's a couple things with aging that I think everyone needs to just look themselves in the eye and be like, how do I feel about this? First of all, I really like birthdays because it's the whole celebration of life from before. If you guys follow on Instagram, we make a really big deal about birthdays. Sometimes they last a very long time. In our family, they last a very, very, very long time. So I was excited for a birthday.

And then,

I don't know, 40 is just one of those years and decades that I feel like you can kind of bring

back yourself. So I follow, like on TikTok, on Instagram, my algorithm is very aging positive.

And I think that that also helps too because I see people that like, in my 40s, I stopped caring where the people think. In my 40s, I made better boundaries. In my 40s, I focus more on myself. And I'm like, you know what? Like those are all really good things. I think that I mean, the whole point of herself podcast pretty much is always talking about those things. But I'm like, why not use a new decade to kind of have that fresh start? If you also know me, I'm kind of a fantasy thinker, like a tomorrow thinker of like when I turn 40, then I'm going to, you know, do this perfectly, do this perfectly, do this perfectly. I won't say it started off that way. I had a very, very rough start to the age of 40. It started off. Like the first week was really great. And then a whole bunch of stuff happened personally, just like weeks into it. So that was kind of a tough break there. But overall, I really do like turning 40. And I'm saying that with kindness, because I know that everyone has those feelings. And we have a lot of friends. I mean, like, we have a lot of friends that aren't even close to turning 40. They'll be months and months and months away. And they're already joining it. Other people have just turned 40 and they're like, oh my gosh, I can't believe I'm in this decade. And so I know that those are real feelings. Wait, I want to know what are your hopes and dreams or like future? Like when you turned 40, what was going to unlock for you and like, what is your dream for 40? My biggest one was I want to do so much more of what brings me happiness and joy and just like this feeling of, because I don't love the word happy, but like this feeling of optimism. Like I want to do so much more of that. And I know the things that do that. Like you can feel it in your body. You can feel it in your heart rate. You can feel it in your breathing. When you walk into a room and you're like, I'm meant to be here. I love these people. I love this hobby. I love all this. And then leaving behind the things that just don't serve me. And so I think that at 40, we also got a lot more clear. And it takes years to do that, you guys. If you can't do that when you're 15. You can't do that even when you're 30. I think that 30s. And for both Amy and I, we had all of our kids in our 30s. I guess you had you had Max a little bit in her 20s, right? But other than that, it's like we had so much change happens in our 30s. And if we can use that to just make the next decade even better, I think that's really, really good at it. I think one thing to think about too, because obviously

not everyone has an easy time aging. I was just telling Abby before we started, 30 to 40 for me

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