#341: When Staying Married Feels Impossible
Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex
Authentic Intimacy®
4.9 • 1.7K Ratings
🗓️ 14 December 2020
⏱️ 52 minutes
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Summary
Circumstances in Laurie’s life started triggering her memories of childhood sexual abuse. Her lifelong struggle with same-sex attraction flared. Alone on a silent retreat, she recommitted herself to God and to her husband Matt. But she wasn’t sure she would ever be able to be sexually intimate with him again.
Matt wanted a marriage with the comforts of sexual intimacy and to be pursued physically by his wife, yet he knew forcing Laurie to do either would not only be ineffective, but unchristlike as well. This marriage felt impossible.
Does your marriage feel impossible, too? Find hope here.
Guests: Matt and Laurie Krieg
Show Notes:
- www.lauriekrieg.com
- Impossible Marriage*
- The Hole in My Heart Podcast at lauriekrieg.com/podcast
- Your Sexual Difference Can Make You Better Lovers
- When You're Attracted to Someone Who's Not Your Spouse
- Java with Juli #319: Is Good Sex a "Right" In Marriage?
- Donate at authenticintimacy.com/give
- Give the Gift of Membership at www.authenticintimacy.com/GIFT
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| 0:00.0 | There's no area of humanity in which Christians can feel more ill-equipped than the arena of sexuality. |
| 0:12.0 | It's kind of this flawed thinking we have as Christians that somehow men and women will just magically become whole in their sexuality without it ever being discussed. |
| 0:20.0 | The biggest one is that somehow pornography usage is caused by a lack of marital sex, |
| 0:28.6 | or a lack of good sex. They are somehow interchangeable. |
| 0:31.6 | And this causes wives to believe that they're responsible. |
| 0:36.6 | This also gives them the false confidence that |
| 0:39.6 | somehow they can fix it. You can have a lot of sex in this life and not be experiencing |
| 0:44.3 | intimacy. I think we see examples of that in the Bible. I think, you know, Solomon, David, |
| 0:48.7 | but you can also experience a lot of intimacy that is nothing to do with sex. |
| 0:56.2 | We see that in the life of Jesus. |
| 0:57.8 | We see that in the life of Paul. |
| 1:00.7 | We should see that in the life of the church. |
| 1:03.5 | I'm Julie Slattery. |
| 1:10.0 | Java with Julie exists to help you have conversations about sexuality that draw people to Jesus Christ, and we're doing just that. |
| 1:12.2 | One listener commented, as a Christian, I grew up with a split mind regarding sex and spirituality. |
| 1:17.8 | I'm 43 now and have just begun to learn that these two great themes of my life, |
| 1:22.4 | sex and my relationship with God, are not mutually exclusive, but are both part of one great design. |
| 1:29.3 | We want to continue to create conversations that help you grow in intimacy with God and to |
| 1:34.9 | understand why he cares so much about your sexuality. |
| 1:38.6 | Will you make a year-end tax-deductible donation toward continuing the Job With Julie podcast? |
| 1:46.2 | You can give safely at authentic nmc.com slash give. Thanks for listening and I look forward to having coffee with you next time |
| 1:52.1 | in 2021. Hey friend, this is Julie Sattery, and thanks for joining me today for Job with Julie. |
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