Okay, Chelsea, I'm so excited. This is such a joy to meet you and to get to interview you today. I got to read the advanced copy of I do today, your brand new book. And I can't wait to talk about it today. I am so excited to talk with you.

Everything, everything you do is so cool. I'm just like, okay, I need to step up my cool factor here and

just step in. And I'm really, really grateful for what you do and excited to have this conversation

with you today. Thank you. Me too. I was delighted when I read through this book

because I don't know what I was expecting, but I think I expected it to be like so many other

marriage books where it feels like a lot. It feels like here's your whole, here is the whole new

design of life. Here's all of your lifestyle changes thrown at you all at once.

And this is the opposite of that. This is like bite size pieces of tactical advice. So tell me

why you leaned that way instead of like let's reinvent the whole wheel on marriage.

Yeah. Thank you so much for saying that. First of all, that is probably, as I've been on this journey, people have gotten, and it's scary to put a book out there as my first solo book, and I didn't realize how scary it was going to be. And I've just I realized that what you just said is the best compliment that people have given me about the book. When people say, oh, it feels bite signs, or it feels doable, or it feels like I can actually enact this. Truth be told, the publisher offered me more money

to just put out a regular book that, hey, here's seven, ten chapters on marriage, and here's how

you can, here's how you can make a difference. But I really did want to help people in their

marriages and in the everyday aspect of marriage, not just in the big things of, hey, here's what you need to be doing deep inside.

Like you said, overhauling your whole life to overhaul your marriage.

But what are the things that we can do on a Tuesday that can help make our marriage better?

And how can we build some new habits of communication and ways

of talking and ways of interacting and I really feel like those are best done in bite-sized

small pieces not in giant thoughts and these huge overhauls like you said but small things

that we can do every day every part of the week that we can

actually get to know each other better as spouses and learn different communication styles,

but doing it in a really bite-sized way. So yeah, it's 52 weeks. It's just a little bit every

week. And I have so much hope that at the end of a couple go on this journey together,

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