You have no control over your child, meaning you can't make them do anything.

You can't make a child agree to stop grabbing or not hit somebody or pee or poop on the

potty or fall asleep at night or agree to put his dishes in the sink or clean up his toys.

Like you can't make a child do anything.

The only thing you control is yourself and your reaction

and how you set up and scaffold the situation in order to help your child be able to come

and ultimately make better choices. I'm Amy and I'm Amy.

And I'm Abby.

And as women, we are constantly comparing ourselves to others.

But your life isn't supposed to look like hers.

Being your best self means standing firm in your decisions and always being willing to grow with a purpose. We get vulnerable and real with an honest look into the challenges and triumphs we all face.

Every woman listening gets the opportunity to choose what life looks like for herself.

This week we are celebrating Memorial Day and we know people are traveling, you're with family, and schedules are just off. So we like to throw it back to one of our greatest hits episodes, this one with Claire Lerner. You guys, this is an episode that gets brought up multiple times a month. We are sending this link out over and over again. There's a lot of passion, there's a lot of emotion, there's a lot of learning, there's a lot of understanding. And we have learned so much from Claire over the years. And this is really where it all started. So if you are having troubles with a spirited child, if the parenting tactics that you've read in the baby books or that your friends have used just aren't working, or if you really just need a warm hug and solidarity, this episode is going to be for you. So with that,

let's get into our greatest hits episode with Claire Lerner. Today on the podcast, we have

Claire Lerner, who is a child development specialist with over 30 years of experience working

with children and families. Claire, I heard her on another podcast,

and I knew that we had to have her on because she just wholeheartedly understands that

there is some nuance in parenting. So right now, when we have experts on or when we go on Instagram, we get kind of like the same

coaching and the same theories and the same scripts. And what Abby and I have realized is that for one

of our kids, those don't work. And so we need people that are going to talk about what what happens when

that gentle parenting advice doesn't work. What happens when you have a kiddo that is more

sensitive, is more reactionary, a kid that sees red sometimes and you know you can't de-escalate

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