Welcome back to the Bossway Podcast. This episode I feel like I needed to bring it out of the vault this time of year because boundaries are invites to

are always important but this time of year they are more important than ever because

there are invites to everything this is the time of year where everyone

gets together it's also the time of year when people start panicking about their businesses,

when there's just invites and asks coming at you from every single angle, and if you don't have your

priority straight and your boundaries clear, you might end up getting pulled into things that don't feel good to you. It might even be you get invited to some family events that you'd really rather sit out. So it's really important to get clear on your boundaries and how you want to go about this season.

I was having conversation this morning on one of my mastermind calls and someone was sharing that they feel like they should say yes to a lot of things

otherwise they will be irrelevant in the industry and I really challenge that perspective because for me I know exactly what my priorities are in my business

and I know my priorities are in my life.

And so when I'm asked to do something,

that's what I run it through. I run it through my lens of this is what I'm focused on in business, is it going to support that?

This is what I'm focused on in my life, is it going to support that? And if the answer is no, the answer is no. And I think a lot of us as women, especially, because my husband doesn't worry about this, we can often feel like a bitch for saying no.

Oh, what are they going to think about me?

What are they going to say about me?

What does that say about me?

And we think so much about what other people are going to think of us

that we end up really gaslighting ourselves.

Oh, you're just being lazy, go and do it, oh, you're not being good friend right now, go do it.

And it takes a lot more courage to listen to our own inner voice and do the things that do or don't feel

aligned with us and not worry so much about how we'll be perceived because the people that matter won't mind and if they do

I know it can be quite blasey to say all they you know that they're not your people but

ultimately do you want to be in relationships where you are obligated to do things you don't want to do?

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