332: Is family estrangement the answer?
Soberful
Veronica Valli
4.8 • 628 Ratings
🗓️ 14 January 2026
⏱️ 42 minutes
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Summary
In this episode, Veronica and Chip delve into the complex topic of family estrangement and the concept of going no contact. They explore the importance of boundaries in relationships, the impact of emotional well-being on family dynamics, and the cultural implications of severing ties with kin. The conversation highlights the necessity of learning skills to navigate difficult relationships while emphasizing the value of connection and the potential dangers of labeling family members as toxic. Ultimately, they advocate for a balanced approach to family relationships, recognizing the challenges while promoting personal growth and understanding.
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| 0:00.0 | I dreamt that you were twisting through seven sons of gold and the gypsy was insisting |
| 0:10.1 | that his story must be told I came two in the morning but I took it as a warning |
| 0:19.1 | that you might be a treasure. |
| 0:22.5 | I could touch but never hold. |
| 0:27.5 | Hey, everybody. |
| 0:28.5 | Welcome back to the Soap of Four podcast. |
| 0:30.7 | I'm Veronica. |
| 0:31.7 | And I'm Chip. |
| 0:32.8 | So this may be a lively one today, |
| 0:35.7 | because I've been kind of dying to explore this topic and talk about it with you because I think that we both are being interesting perspectives to it. |
| 0:45.5 | We're going to be talking about family estrangement and the whole concept of going no contact. |
| 0:50.8 | I've been following this for quite a while, right? I've been sort of thinking about it and I kind of get it as a therapist. |
| 0:56.6 | I mean, I've encouraged clients to have boundaries with family members like multiple times. |
| 1:01.1 | Absolutely, yeah. |
| 1:02.4 | Boundaries are like, boundaries to me are just like the golden ticket, right? |
| 1:06.8 | If you can learn what boundaries are and how to have them, they really can be life changing for your relationship. They can. They can indeed, yeah. Huge fan of boundaries. Yeah. And a lot of us just don't, I didn't grow up, didn't know what they were, all that kind of stuff. Sure. So the going no contact is like when you completely cut off a family member, like no contact, as it says on the tin. And I'm just |
| 1:30.3 | seeing it talked about a lot. And Oprah did a show on it. It was very interesting. She did it |
| 1:35.9 | from the perspective of adult children who had gone no contact with their parents. And she did |
| 1:40.0 | it and she interviewed parents whose children had gone no contact. And it was a real mixed bag. |
| 1:45.4 | It was very interesting. You know, there was one guy who I felt grew up sort of almost similar |
| 1:50.8 | to your family in that like there was just all these expectations. You're going to go to a really |
| 1:56.1 | good school. You're going to marry well. You know, you're going to have a good job. |
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