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328 - Skills vs. Willpower

Porn Free Radio

Matt Dobschuetz

Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Education, Self-improvement

4.9672 Ratings

🗓️ 22 March 2024

⏱️ 43 minutes

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Summary

When you started recovery, the challenge was overwhelming (high) and your skill level was low.

And chances are if you have not significantly changed your habits, the challenge feels about the same.

For a long time the only tool in your tool box was willpower. Some version of "JUST SAY NO."

But often willpower is easily exhausted. It gives out when we need it most.

What if I told you success in recovery is not about increasing your willpower, it's about building skills.

This is part 3 in our series, The Choice is Yours.

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Transcript

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0:00.0

Porn Free Radio, episode 328.

0:12.8

Hey, this spring, join a group of like-minded men, guys who listen to the podcast like you,

0:18.7

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0:24.4

Coaching. Discover the benefits of working with others. We meet each week via Zoom, but guys connect

0:31.1

and message daily. You don't have to do this alone. Go to Recoveredman.com slash Rev.

0:38.9

Fill out my short application.

0:45.7

And we have several different times to choose from. Monday and Thursday evenings in the U.S. are open. That's morning in Asia. And then we have daytime groups on Tuesday and Wednesday.

0:52.4

And that turns out to be the evening in the EU.

0:56.2

So if you're in England or in Europe, one of those daytime groups will work for you.

1:00.9

To check out available openings or to get on our waiting list, go to Recoveredman.com

1:06.8

slash Rev and apply today. Well, chances are when you started recovery, the challenge of quitting porn, of not looking at porn was very overwhelming.

1:38.9

It was very high in your life.

1:42.2

And your skill level was really low. The tools you used, how you handled the

1:48.8

situation, how you handled the challenge was very low. And chances are if nothing has changed in your

1:56.4

habits, the challenge feels about the same. Even if you've done a little effort and you've tried some

2:04.8

things, it still feels like an overwhelming challenge. Now for a long time, the only tool in your

2:12.0

toolbox, and this is kind of how we all start, is the just no tool right or some version of that it's willpower

2:21.2

it's it's like hey when I'm in this tempting situation oh I just need to say no I need to just be more

2:29.5

self-controlled I need to look away from this I need to, I need to just not, not do this. But as you know,

2:41.2

willpower is easily exhausted. You know, we get stressed out. We get fatigued. The situation

2:49.7

that we're dealing with is really difficult, and it gives out when we need it the most.

2:56.6

Now, what if I told you that success in recovery is not about increasing your willpower, it's about building skills?

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