Welcome to UnFuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism, and coaching to rewire your brain

and get what you want in life.

And now here's your host, Harvard Law School grad, Feminist Rockstar, and Master Coach,

Kara Loyenthyle.

Hello, my goal-oriented, chickens, or ducks or owls or just find feathered friends of all kinds.

Welcome to part three of this series, the final part in this series of how and why to make and keep resolutions.

I mean I'm actually going to come back to this topic in January

because I want to support you if you do stumble with your resolutions down the line,

but we're concluding this part of the series, the planning part.

So if you didn't listen to the last two episodes, please go back and do that.

But the brief summary is that so far we've learned the following. We've learned that resolutions

are important because they are how we align our lives with our values instead of just living

based on our primitive brain's desire for comfort and stability.

We've also learned that when we choose a resolution based on shame or inadequacy,

if we want to use that resolution to prove our value and worth by succeeding at it,

then we are destined to fail at it. It puts way too much pressure on us and our

brain automatically loses motivation.

If the point of the resolution is in your brain unconsciously,

if the point of the resolution is to feel better about yourself,

as soon as you feel bad about yourself on the way,

which is going to happen because you've got all the same thoughts and feelings you ever did,

you'll lose your motivation.

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