You're listening to the Vibrance Happy Women Podcast. I'm Dr. Jen Ridey, and today I'm going to talk to you about how do you know when you need to change your thinking or whether you need to set a boundary? Stay tuned.

Hi, I'm Jen Ridey, and this podcast is for women who want to feel more vibrant, happy, aligned, and alive. You'll gain the emotional,

physical, and spiritual tools you need to get your sparkle back and ensure that depression,

anxiety, and struggle don't rule your life. Welcome to the Vibrant Happy Women podcast.

Hey there, my friends. Welcome back to Vibrant Happy women. This is the place to uplevel your life,

to change how you think, to set proper boundaries so you can be your best self. So you can get your

sparkle back and know what you want and go after it. I'm so glad you're here. On this episode,

I'm going to be talking about boundaries and thoughts.

As you know, I teach thought tables. In fact, I was recently in the most recent coach certification

classes teaching about thought tables. Just to recap, thought tables are based on cognitive behavioral therapy

and the way I teach them. There are facts, provable in a court of law. There are thoughts,

feelings, actions, and results. Ultimately, all the results we have in our lives are because of

how we're thinking. Because every thought

either empowers us or disempowers us, makes us an emotional powerhouse or an emotional victim.

Every thought either moves us forward or keeps us stuck. There's nothing wrong with processing

your emotions. Don't get me wrong. Sometimes we do need self-pity. Sometimes we do need to numb with the latest Netflix show. We need breaks from our emotions. But ideally, we process through, we handle our feelings like we learned so well throughout the pandemic. And then we look at our

thoughts and we say, hey, okay, this is the result I've been having. I've been procrastinating.

I've been unmotivated. I'm not getting a lot done. Hmm, I wonder why. Let's back it up and

figure it out. Well, I haven't been doing anything. Why? Because I've been

feeling depressed. Okay, what thought is making me feel depressed? Now, again, that's after you've

processed your feelings. We don't want to stay stuck in sadness or depression, but we want to see what thoughts might be contributing.

Now, this is not to belittle true clinical depression. I'm a firm believer in medication when

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