Resentment. It's that poisonous, slow burning feeling that's bad for our mental health and even worse for our relationships. How can we let go of

resentment when situations are unfair or when we do feel left behind?

Welcome back to savvy psychologist.

I'm your host Dr. Jade Wu.

Every week I'll help you meet life's challenges with evidence-based research, a sympathetic

ear and zero judgment.

Today, let's take a break from grumbling to consider five ways to get a healthy perspective shift and let go of resentment.

So we've talked about a lot of negative emotions on this podcast, including how sadness is not

all bad, how you can cope with fear, and even how to see anger as useful.

These emotions are all pretty clear and easy to define, kind of like the primary colors of bad

feelings.

But sometimes we feel bad in ways

that are not as easy to put a finger on.

One such muddy emotion I've heard a lot about recently is resentment. Do thoughts like this sound

familiar? I moved across the country and sacrificed the job I loved so we could be together and you can't even do your share of the dishes?

I'm so sick of hearing my sister talk about her perfect wedding last year.

I didn't even get to have mine because of COVID. I shouldn't have

to be the only one taking care of my elderly parents. Why don't my siblings do their

fair share?

It's just not fair that I have to work so hard to lose weight while my partner can eat whatever and not gain a pound.

Success seems to just fall into his lap because he's good-looking and charming. Ugh, it's so annoying.

These feelings of resentment are so understandable.

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