Welcome to UnFuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism, and coaching to rewire your brain

and get what you want in life.

And now here's your host, Harvard Law School grad, Feminist Rockstar, and Master Coach,

Kara Loyenthyle.

Hello, my chickens, how are you?

I am Colt, because the gas has been off in our apartment for six weeks

due to various landlord shenanigans and I've never been so grateful that I actually grew up in a bedroom that didn't have working heat.

And even though I never really understood why, the rest of the house that heat in my room

when I was growing up just broke and it just never got fixed. I had a space heater.

It's actually kind of an amazing metaphor for how long we all can tolerate and just get used

to totally solvable problems that don't need to last for years.

Because we just get used to the problem, we work around it.

We have some area of our life that is painful or not working or problematic and we just try to make do

We give up on really solving it and we just tolerate whatever suffering it's creating because we don't even think of it as something we can change.

And I have seen people suffer through years and years of a problem because they had the thought that it couldn't be solved

or it couldn't be helped.

And this is why I'm so passionate about setting goals

and it's why I want to talk in this episode

about the importance of goals and I want to do that in the context of New Year's resolutions

because I think that resolutions have kind of started to get a bad rap a little bit.

You know, first I think partly just as you get older, you're more used to setting a bunch of

resolutions that you then fail at and you've had a lot of experience in that, right?

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