32: Lying, Sneaking, Cheating. What Keeps Kids From Being Honest?

Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens

Dr. Lisa Damour/Reena Ninan

Kids & Family, Health & Fitness, Parenting, Mental Health

4.7 • 822 Ratings

🗓️ 23 March 2021

⏱️ 30 minutes

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Summary

There are many reasons why kids lie to parents. Dr. Lisa gives several explanations for why kids sometimes don’t tell the truth and shares stories from her practice of the difficult scenarios she's helped families navigate, including an example of when parents assume the worst about their teen's behavior and get kids to live down to their expectations. Dr. Lisa and Reena also discuss cheating and how what happens in the mind of a six-year-old cheater differs from cheating among high school students. Ultimately, helping kids develop a fine-tuned conscience can make all the difference when it comes to being honest. FOR CHILDREN EVERYWHERE: First Book works with half a million teachers in underserved communities to get them books and much needed resources. The organization believes the best way out of poverty is education: www.firstbook.org ARTICLE: Lisa's NYT article How to Help a Teen Out of a Homework Hole Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to: asklisa@drlisadamour.com Additional resources: https://www.drlisadamour.com Follow us on Instagram and Twitter @asklisapodcast See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

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0:00.0	This is Ask Lisa, a podcast to help people understand the psychology of parenting, now in the midst of a pandemic.
0:12.2	Psychologist Dr. Lisa DeMore, author of two New York Times best-selling parenting books, takes your questions.
0:19.7	And I'm co-host, Rina Ninan, a journalist and mom of two.
0:23.7	Some of what we talk about comes from raising children ourselves. Most of the time, I'll be getting
0:28.5	answers to your parenting questions. So send your questions to Ask Lisa at Dr.Lisademore.com.
0:36.3	Episode 32, Lines Sneaking Cheating.
0:39.7	What keeps kids from being honest?
0:45.3	It's official.
0:46.5	I went and got a checkup.
0:48.0	I am 10 pounds heavier than I was a year ago.
0:51.3	Congratulations, Rina.
0:52.3	Well done.
0:53.7	Okay, I'm not stressing over it because apparently I'm in the healthy BMI,
0:58.0	but I'm telling everyone who's listening, don't worry about it.
1:01.5	It's going to get better and we're going to be outside as the weather warms up.
1:05.9	Exactly.
1:06.6	It'll sort itself out.
1:07.7	I do wish the scale lied sometimes, but you know who lies sometimes more often than the scale are children.
1:15.0	How do you get that under wraps?
1:17.0	I love this letter that we got in our inbox.
1:19.3	Lisa, it says, hello, I'm a licensed clinical social worker in New York.
1:23.1	I work with children, adolescents, and families.
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