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Episode 31, my kid looked at porn. What should I do?

So I got the question, where do babies come from? And I'm so grateful, you always have great

advice. And I asked my son, where did this come from? Like, how did you start thinking about

this? And he said he saw a show. And the actor in the show, the kids said, if you want to see

parents so confused and unable to answer you, ask them, where do babies come from? It made me think,

what is he consuming that I don't know about? It was one of these teeny bop shows. Yep, yeah. So in our inbox,

we got a letter because you've always told me what are the things that can really cause harm to a

child? And one of them you've always said is porn. Yeah. Right? Which is totally different from the

conversation I was having with my son. I know this is a different route, but I saw this letter in her inbox

that got my attention. It says, Dear Dr. Lisa, our 10-year-old son has been remote learning on a

computer given to him by the school. We have a role that he's not supposed to take the computer

in his bedroom, but we figured out that he was sneaking it in there and closing the door.

Something seemed fishy, so I checked his cash and found that he had

been visiting really raunchy porn sites. I'm floored and don't know what to do. What do I say to

my son? Where do I even start? Thank you for your help. God, what do you say to a kid who has been

looking at this, right?

This is like a horrible moment as a parent.

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