Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.

My name is Andrea and this is adult child. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I mean.

Yeah, yeah.

What you holding on to,

What you holding on to,

but just let it all go.

What's making you slow now? Let it all go.

Welcome back to a little child where we take a deep dive into the impact of growing up in a dysfunctional family. And today we are diving deep with Kendra Allen. She is the face behind the popular Instagram account, your breakup besty.

Now, breakups, as we know, are not necessarily a time

when an adult child thrives or is at the top of our game. In fact, we will do essentially anything

to avoid a breakup. We will do whatever it takes to keep a shitty, unfulfilling,

miserable relationship in order not to feel the intense feelings of abandonment

that arise when a relationship ends. So Kendra is a relationship coach,

helping women survive, heal, and thrive from breakups

and helps them to do the work needed

in order to not keep repeating the same dysfunctional

relationship patterns. She is also a woman in recovery so she's going to be

sharing with us about her journey to sobriety, but more importantly

about her romantic relationship history, which started off with a bang in an abusive and toxic relationship

with a narcissist,

which was followed by a series of unhealthy

and painful relationships,

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