309: SEX IS NOT A DUTY IT’S A GIFT

ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show

Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo

Religion & Spirituality, Sexuality, Kids & Family, Health & Fitness, Christianity

4.6 • 1.7K Ratings

🗓️ 2 February 2016

⏱️ 31 minutes

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Summary

Sex is one of the biggest perks of being married and yet so often, relegated to an obligation instead of being the gift it truly should be. Have you ever said (or at least thought) any of the following in regard to sex in your marriage. It’s one more thing I have to do I’m so tired Don’t you ever get enough What about MY needs I could take it or leave it How does sex with your spouse get to this point? There is an anticipation to be sexually intimate at times, but more often than not it's not even on the radar for you or your spouse. This could be due to... Childhood messages about what sex should or shouldn’t be Busyness Lack of romance Lack of communication Sex is used as a weapon, treat me well and I’ll have sex with you, otherwise, no go Stopped learning or caring what works for the other Routine (same positions/same time) When sex has become a duty or an obligation, your marriage suffers. Sex is truly one the most intimate times with another person and not being fully involved in the process is placing a wedge between you and your spouse. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about changing your mindset so that sex is not a duty in your marriage but a gift that you give to one another. EPISODE SPONSOR | 19 Quick Questions That Will Rekindle Your Sex Life ASAP Talking about sex with your spouse is something you should do during different seasons of life. When you do you'll create a shift in your marriage around this sometimes “tricky” subject. Make sure to pick up this FREE resource that is going to give you 19 questions to change your sex life. Grab 19 Quick Questions now and don't miss an opportunity to learn about your sexual intimacy. 3 Ways to Overcome Your Fear 15 Ways to Romance Your Spouse Over the Next 30 Days Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions For Couples 140 - Scheduling Sex Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	From San Diego, California, this is a one extraordinary marriage show.
0:04.1	We're being busy as overdone. Romancing is fun and scheduling sex has taken the
0:08.5	guesswork out of wondering when you're going to get some.
0:10.7	I'm Tony Deloreenzo, your co-host along with my beautiful wife, Elisa. From coast to coast and around the world,
0:17.0	thank you for joining us. It's time to talk sex, love, and commitment. Give us a call at 858
0:22.9	876 563 that's 858 876 563
0:28.9	in today's show we talk about changing your mindset so that sex is not a duty in your
0:36.4	marriage, but a gift that you give to one another.
0:39.8	And philosopher Albert Camus had this to say about duty. He said I know of only one duty and that is to love and I
0:48.0	think just hearing that and really thinking about that in your marriage and what love looks like.
0:52.3	Love is really the only obligation that we have to one another and yet this idea that sex
0:55.8	is a duty and an obligation sometimes gets tangled up in marriage and so we're really
0:59.7	going to be unpacking that in today's show.
1:02.2	But before we get there, you know one of the
1:04.4	highlights of the show for me is the hug and the hug is really for those of
1:08.1	you that are brand new to the one extraordinary marriage show the hug is our
1:12.1	opportunity to share what's going on in the
1:14.5	community at large how marriages are being changed the impact that the show and the
1:18.4	resources are having on each one of you and this week's hug is brought to you
1:21.9	by one extraordinary's free 19 quick questions that will rekindle your sex life, ASAP.
1:28.0	And you can find this at One Extraordinary Marriage. com slash 19 questions.
1:33.0	And as Tony said in the intro, we're going to be talking all about sex this week
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