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Do You F*cking Mind?

309. HEAD NOISE: Retroactive Jealousy, STD Shame in Relationships, Attachment Styles and Crushes

Do You F*cking Mind?

Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa - Neuroscientist and Mindset Coach

Education, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.9914 Ratings

🗓️ 29 February 2024

⏱️ 23 minutes

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Summary

Let’s get into HEAD NOISE where I answer your questions about life, love, friendship, and all the fun messy things that make being alive so lit.

1)   My partner and I are great, and then every now and then they snap when talking about or learning about my past dating history. My dating history isn’t anything wild, and I can’t control that I’ve been with other people, so how do I deal with their reaction to the fact that they’re not my first and only love?

2)    My partner has genital herpes, and has been upfront with me about this. We communicated about expectations in our physical relationship, and how I could most be comfortable and feel protected at the same time. We are now a little further into our relationship and he has started saying things like if I want this relationship to continue I need to stop making him feel so bad about having herpes, that I make him feel dirty and ruin his self confidence because of the precautions I’ve put in place during sex to keep myself at less risk of contracting HSV.

3)    My therapist says I am anxiously attached from a past trauma. I was wondering if you could talk me through limerence vs love, because my anxiety around dating

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Host: Alexis Fernandez       
Executive Producer & Editor: Elise Cooper
Digital Producer: Zoe Panaretos
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0:00.0

A Listener Production

0:03.9

Please leave your message after the tone

0:07.3

Why am I jealous of my ex?

0:09.7

I am so stressed all the time

0:11.7

How do I get into a routine?

0:13.3

Is TikTok making me anxious?

0:15.2

I think I'm being manipulated.

0:17.0

Someone told me you could live with half a brain.

0:19.4

This is Do You Fucking Mind, Mind mind mindset hacks for a badass life.

0:23.3

Hosted by me, Alexis Fernandez.

0:25.6

Hello, my beautiful beans.

0:26.9

Welcome to the episode of today.

0:29.3

So this is a head noise episode.

0:30.9

This is where you guys send me your questions, your biggest,

0:37.4

the things that's going on in your mind that you can't resolve on

0:40.7

your own. So you're like, I'm just going to fucking ask Alexis right now and see what she would say.

0:44.9

So that's why it's your head noise. We're sharing our head noise and we're going to work through

0:50.2

your problems. I'm going to crack it open on the table and work through them together. Okay, so let's just get straight into it. I have so many, so, so many submissions.

1:00.5

Thank you so much for everyone that's sending them through. And I hopefully would love to get

1:05.1

through all of them at some point. So yeah, I am definitely like slowly working through a whole bunch. But yeah, I do really

1:12.9

appreciate everyone of you sending through your questions. All right, let's begin. Hi, Alexis. Is it

1:19.9

normal for your partner to constantly tell you that they don't trust you? I've just recently

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