307. Childhood Trauma, Marriage, and Making Friends | Dr. John Delony

The Jordan B. Peterson Podcast

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🗓️ 21 November 2022

⏱️ 98 minutes

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Dr. Peterson's extensive catalog is available now on DailyWire+: https://utm.io/ueSXh Dr. Jordan B. Peterson and Dr. John Delony discuss the destitution of loneliness, the salvation in connection, how to strengthen ties through listening, and why you should stop ignoring your flaws. Dr. John Delony is a bestselling author, mental health expert, and host of The Dr. John Delony Show. This caller-driven show offers real people a chance to be heard as they struggle with relationship issues and mental health challenges. John gives practical advice on how to connect with people, how to take the next right step, and how to cut through the depression and anxiety that can feel so overwhelming. Delony has two PhDs and over two decades of experience in counseling, crisis response, and higher education. In 2020 Delony joined Ramsey Solutions, a powerhouse multi-media company that brings together top minds in topics such as finance, real estate, mental health, and overall well being. Through their platform they produce shows, lectures, events, documentaries, books, and more. —Links— For Dr. John Delony: The Dr. John Delony Show: https://link.chtbl.com/delony Own Your Past, Change Your Future: https://bit.ly/3V3egYS Redefining Anxiety: https://bit.ly/3ApOTZk Instagram: @johndelony on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/johndelony/ - Sponsors - Birch Gold: Text "JORDAN" to 989898 for your no-cost, no-obligation, FREE information kit Elysium Health: Save 25% off Matter monthly subscriptions with code JBP25: https://explorematter.com/Jordan Black Rifle Coffee: Get 10% off your first order or Coffee Club subscription with code JORDAN: https://www.blackriflecoffee.com/ Hallow: Try Hallow for 3 months FREE: https://hallow.com/jordan — Chapters — (0:00) Coming Up (1:19) Intro (2:10) Story and the body (6:47) Memory, a flawed canon (10:04) Detailing anxiety (11:59) Loneliness (15:00) Sanity is distributed (17:16) The need for friendship (21:10) Ben Franklin, favors (23:10) The Corner Store technique (25:29) Teaching generosity (28:35) Your life is what you repeat, focus on that (30:41) Rebuilding a marriage (37:09) Having a daily shared image (45:05) Sex in marriage (50:00) What do you actually want? (55:08) Why you don’t know (1:00:49) High ordered goals (1:06:00) The greatest lost skill (1:07:11) The difference between listening and looking to solve a problem (1:16:10) Practical skills for listening (1:20:33) Categorizing the problems in your world (1:24:50) Seeking out your vulnerabilities (1:27:48) the importance of confession (1:31:40) Why labels are lackluster (1:34:42) The small scale scales exponentially (1:36:30) How we spread the movement // SUPPORT THIS CHANNEL // Newsletter: https://mailchi.mp/jordanbpeterson.com/youtubesignup Donations: https://jordanbpeterson.com/donate // COURSES // Discovering Personality: https://jordanbpeterson.com/personality Self Authoring Suite: https://selfauthoring.com Understand Myself (personality test): https://understandmyself.com // BOOKS // Beyond Order: 12 More Rules for Life: https://jordanbpeterson.com/Beyond-Order 12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos: https://jordanbpeterson.com/12-rules-for-life Maps of Meaning: The Architecture of Belief: https://jordanbpeterson.com/maps-of-meaning // LINKS // Website: https://jordanbpeterson.com Events: https://jordanbpeterson.com/events Blog: https://jordanbpeterson.com/blog Podcast: https://jordanbpeterson.com/podcast // SOCIAL // Twitter: https://twitter.com/jordanbpeterson Instagram: https://instagram.com/jordan.b.peterson Facebook: https://facebook.com/drjordanpeterson Telegram: https://t.me/DrJordanPeterson All socials: https://linktr.ee/drjordanbpeterson #JordanPeterson #JordanBPeterson #DrJordanPeterson #DrJordanBPeterson #DailyWirePlus

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0:00.0	Hello everyone watching and listening on YouTube or one of the associated podcasts.
0:20.6	I'm here today with Dr. John Galoni.
0:24.2	He's the author of Own Your Past, Change Your Future.
0:27.1	We're going to talk today and I'm very happy to do this to talk to another clinician about
0:32.9	the fact that you live your life through a story, that you see the world through a story,
0:37.7	what that story might be like when things are going wrong, how it might be approved, and
0:42.1	also to talk about identity and its transformations in the most practical possible way.
0:48.2	So there are specifics that we can talk about, but that's a good place to start.
0:52.5	What got you so interested in stories, John?
0:58.9	I think I reverse engineered my way into it.
1:03.0	It was learning the trauma narrative that played out in the human body 10, 15, 30 years
1:10.4	later after the initial trauma.
1:12.9	And so I've always thought stories were narrative, right?
1:16.6	There's something I thought about.
1:17.6	I did not understand that my body was keeping the score to quote, vendor call, right?
1:23.2	My body was revving up and fighting battles that I didn't even know was happening.
1:26.8	And so we're looking at the long term data.
1:29.6	Man, people are having strokes and cancer and heart attacks from childhood experiences.
1:35.3	And that made me step back and go, whoa, there's these different layers to these stories happening
1:39.7	all over the place.
1:41.2	And it's not just narrative.
1:42.9	It's the entire ecosystem that I call my body, right, my human experience.
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