303. When Friends Vanish, Why It Happens, and How to Handle It

The Widowed Mom Podcast

Krista St-Germain

Mental Health, Grief, Deathofpartner, Education, Widowedmom, Deathofspouse, Widow, Lossoflovedone, Health & Fitness, Husbanddied, Self-improvement, Posttraumaticgrowth, Lifeafterloss, Overcominggrief

4.6 • 649 Ratings

🗓️ 17 March 2025

⏱️ 16 minutes

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Summary

I open up about my own recent experience with secondary loss, feeling the impact of recent plane crashes that involved the same types of aircraft my late husband Hugo used to work on. It's a stark reminder that grief doesn't have an expiration date, and secondary losses can hit us when we least expect them.

If you've been struggling with vanishing friends in the wake of your loss, know that you are not alone.

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Widowed Mom podcast, episode 303, when friends vanish, why it happens, and how to handle it.
0:10.4	Welcome to the Widowed Mom podcast, the only podcast that offers a proven process to help you work through your grief to grow, evolve, and create a future you can truly look forward
0:23.2	to. Here's your host, Master Certified Life Coach, Grief Expert, Widow, and Mom, Krista
0:30.5	St. Germain.
0:32.9	Hey there, welcome to another episode of the podcast. I'm recording two episodes today because we're
0:40.2	getting ready to go to Italy and I'm excited about that. It's going to be a good time. Haven't seen
0:45.6	any of Italy before. F blown right over it. So I'm looking forward to that. Also, something I'm not
0:53.0	excited about but still experiencing as of late,
0:56.5	which I wanted to share with you because you will understand, is how much these recent plane
1:03.6	crashes have affected me. And of course, no one, even though I'm from Wichita and the plane
1:09.6	that crashed in Washington, D.C. was a plane coming from my city to Washington, D.C. I did not personally know anyone. Of course, it's a small world, and I know many people who know people, but I didn't personally know anyone, nor did I know anyone who was lost in the crash that happened in
1:29.2	Philadelphia with the Learjet. And then just recently, this Delta accident that also happened up in
1:34.4	Canada with another CRJ. And the connection for me, of course, yes, Wichita, but also it's it's
1:41.4	Bombardier. It's those products, right? Because I used to work for Bombardia.
1:45.4	That's how I met Hugo.
1:47.2	And what I am noticing is how weird it has been to wonder what he would say about what's happened.
1:56.9	And the knowledge that he had about that, you know, just an engineer obsessed with aviation, right?
2:02.3	To watch all of his friends who are highly technically minded discuss these things on Facebook and kind of talk about what they think went wrong.
2:09.5	And yeah, it's just so strange to not have hardly anything happen with a Bombardier plane and then to have three planes so quickly. So yeah, it just makes me
2:23.1	miss him. It makes me wonder what he's thinking about all of it. It makes me sad for all the
2:27.1	families impacted. And those are just the kinds of things, which really feeds quite naturally into
2:32.8	what we're going to talk about today, those secondary losses that we don't really anticipate. I don't think I anticipated after Hugo died
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