30: Vanessa Van Edwards | How to Captivate with Social Cues
The Jordan Harbinger Show
Jordan Harbinger
4.8 • 12.3K Ratings
🗓️ 16 April 2018
⏱️ 51 minutes
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Summary
Vanessa Van Edwards (@vvanedwards) is the lead investigator at human behavior research lab Science of People and author of Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People.
What We Discuss with Vanessa Van Edwards:- How to make a graceful exit with social cues.
- How to nicely interrupt someone with social cues.
- How to introduce someone whose name you don't remember.
- How to show someone you are (or are not) attracted to them with social cues.
- How to show someone you don't believe them with social cues.
- And much more...
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| 0:00.0 | A lot of the times they think interrupters interrupts out of fear. They're afraid of |
| 0:03.9 | silences. They're afraid of being boring. And they're afraid of running out of things to say. |
| 0:09.0 | So in their head, they're constantly active at thinking the next thing. And so once they |
| 0:12.8 | accomplish it, they want to ask it or share it right away. But if you say I have three things, |
| 0:17.2 | or I have two things, or first, second, they will be like, oh, I have a break. |
| 0:23.3 | Welcome to the show. I'm Jordan Harbinger. As always, I'm here with my producer Jason DeFilippo. |
| 0:28.8 | On this episode, we're talking with my good friend Vanessa Van Edwards. Been a while since I've |
| 0:32.5 | gotten a chance to speak with her. Flew up to Portland to hang out for a minute. And we did a show |
| 0:37.7 | because that's how we roll. And it's also how we justify flying around all over the place to |
| 0:42.7 | hang out with our friends. Not bad. It's a good time up there. If you're in Portland, |
| 0:46.7 | you live in a great place. I'm just going to go ahead and throw that out there. If it didn't rain |
| 0:50.2 | every day, I'd move there. Today, we're talking about how to make a graceful exit with social cues, |
| 0:55.2 | how to show someone you're not attracted to them with social cues, how to show someone you don't |
| 0:59.6 | believe them with social cues, and how to nicely interrupt someone with social cues. In case you |
| 1:04.3 | haven't put it together, this episode largely revolves around social cues. There's a lot more |
| 1:08.8 | that we discuss in this particular episode because Vanessa Van Edwards is a master, |
| 1:14.1 | master's of body language and nonverbal communication, which is one of the reasons we met in |
| 1:18.7 | the first place. And you know, she practices what she preaches. She's a nice lady that Vanessa Van |
| 1:24.3 | Edwards. I'm a big fan. I'm a big fan of her and her content. I'm happy to bring some of that |
| 1:28.8 | here to you today. Don't forget we have a worksheet for today's episode so you can make sure that you |
| 1:33.2 | understand everything that Vanessa Van Edwards and I discussed. And you can actually apply it. |
| 1:37.8 | Go figure. That's important too, right? Not just learning through osmosis, learning through doing |
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