Hello there podcast listeners and welcome back to the Love Life podcast with your host Steve

Hussie which is me. Today we are going to forgo the usual tag team of Matthew my brother and I

together and I'm going to do a solo episode returning to a format that was very popular when I did

it the first time and took you through one of my blog posts on a specific pain point specific

difficulty that many people face in their romantic relationships which is how do I get the courage

to let go and what makes it so difficult to leave a relationship even when it's not a good

relationship so I'm going to talk through the post and just kind of read it through with you and give

commentary along the way the post is titled the flawed psychological bias that keeps you with the

wrong person one of the worst things about breaking up isn't just losing someone it's to terrifying

thought what if I never find someone who makes me feel the same again what if he or she is totally

irreplaceable he has a master's degree and he's good in bed he loves to spend time with family

and he owns a successful company and he's ambitious he's a brilliant creative artist and he

keeps his apartment tidy does the dishes knows how to cook the problem with finding someone unique

is the feeling that we can never find that person again and the scary part is on some level that's

true yes the specific person can't be replaced but we certainly can experience the same

intensity of love and even greater fulfillment with someone else yet time and time again I've had

people tell me I don't know if I should end it or I don't know if I'm strong enough to let him go

even when they aren't getting their deepest needs met be it for love loyalty commitment or even

just basic human kindness the reasons people stay in bad relationships are complex bad models from

parents fear of abandonment a lack of fulfillment in other areas of life need for attention and

validation these are all factors that can make it difficult to cut loose and face the prospect of

being single again but one big factor that makes it even harder is a psychological bias known as

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