Welcome to the Awesome Marriage Podcast, a place for honest conversations about marriage and how to have the relationship that God has designed for you.

I am your co-host, Christina Dodson.

On the show will be our host, Dr. Kim Kim, Kimberling and Nill Smith.

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So in continuation of our mini series on three ways to stop fighting with your spouse,

today is way too to stop fighting with your spouse.

It's remember your feelings can't be trusted.

So Dr. Kim, what happens when we trust our feelings over real knowledge and reality?

Well, the truth is we may be totally and completely off base because our feelings can be so

strong and they seem so real.

And I've had couples in counseling where this one of them is the feeling is so strong and

we work and work for the other spouse to help communicate to them.

That is not what they thought. That is not what they thought.

That was not what they intended.

And just watching them go through that process,

the one who's the feeling has been so strong,

it takes a long time sometimes for them to let go of that

because it had their whole, not only their feelings within their mind,

everything was engaged in believing something to be a certain way.

And then it wasn't. Now, in the long run, healing came. But it was almost like, I can't trust you

over my feelings. My feelings seem so real. My feelings are mine. And I know you're telling me this,

but this is what I'm feeling. Yeah. That's so hard. That's hard to work through.

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