Welcome to the Awesome Marriage Podcast, a place for honest conversations about marriage and how to have the relationship that God has designed for you.

I am your co-host, Christina Dodson.

On the show will be our host, Dr. Kim Kimberling and Nill Smith.

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This week on the podcast, we're doing a mini series on three ways to practice true monogamy. So today is way number three, and it's

build up your spouse physically and sexually and no one else. So Dr. Kim, what does it mean to

build up your spouse physically and sexually? What are we talking about here?

I think for me in my relationship with Nancy is to let her know that I feel she's the most beautiful person in my life and that I think I love everything about her that in the physical

relationship that I think she I would not rather have her. I mean nobody else would even compare to her. And I want her to know that because I believe that in my heart, I would not rather have her. I mean, nobody else would even compare to her.

And I want her to know that because I believe that in my heart, I feel that way.

I think our culture sends so many different messages to people. You know, and we talk a lot about

the message that sends to women and how it's unrealistic, the pictures that women compare themselves to and getting into comparison

thing. And I was talking to a guy this week in counseling, and he was just, he was a guy that

if you looked at you would think this is one of the most confident, attractive guys,

strong guys that you could do. And he talked about his insecurities about the way he looked.

And so I think it's there for the way he learned. And so I think

it's there for men and women both. And so we need to hear those things. We need to hear that we're

attractive. We need to hear that we perform well sexually. And we need to hear them for our spouse.

That's where we need to hear those things. And because that's the way it's God meant it to be.

And, you know, that's who I want to hear it from.

I want to hear Nancy think that, you know, I look good or I perform well or that I'm hot or whatever she says, you know.

And, you know, I give her a list usually of things that she can say.

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