Welcome to the Awesome Marriage Podcast, a place for honest conversations about marriage

and how to have the relationship that God has designed for you.

I am your co-host, Christina Dodson.

On the show will be our host, Dr. Kim Kim Kimberling and Nill Smith.

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So earlier this week on the podcast, we talked about avoiding the temptation to change your spouse.

Dr. Kim shared how trying to change your spouse never really works.

It isn't the right goal to a happy marriage and it was never meant to be our role.

So now instead of that, we're going to give you ways to change yourself instead of your spouse.

So in this mini series, we're going to give you three different ways that you can change yourself instead of changing your spouse.

So today's way is focusing on your own issues.

So Dr. Kim, how has how does this work kind of?

How can focusing on your own issues take the pressure off trying to change your spouse?

And why is this a better plan?

Well, it totally switches the focus.

And so you're taking personal responsibility.

And I think it goes back to the thing we talk about a lot.

There's only one person you can change, and that's yourself.

And so you can spend a lot of time and energy trying to change your spouse.

And I've never seen it work out well.

You know, it is in conflict or arguments or resentments and all those negative things. So I think

it puts back where you can do something about. And that's that you can change yourself. And really

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