Welcome to the Awesome Marriage Podcast, a place for honest conversations about marriage and how to have the relationship that God has designed for you.

I am your co-host, Christina Dodson. On the show will be our host, Dr. Kim Kimberling and Nell Smith.

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So this week on the Awesome Marriage podcast, we're going to be doing a mini series on three

things that your spouse can't be for you.

So each day we're going to be talking about one thing that your spouse should not be for

you and how to make sure you're not kind of falling into this trap of making your spouse

more than they can be.

So today's thing your spouse can't be is your ultimate happiness.

Dr. Kim, where do you think this idea comes from that our spouse even should be our ultimate

happiness?

You know, I wonder when I think about that, if that's always been true or, because I see so

much of it as being part of our culture with what we see in movies and

TV, you know, even from growing up and seeing Disney movies and they lived happily ever after

together and just, you know, that picture. If you find the right person, you're going to be

happy for the rest of your life. And it's like the image there's and you don't have to do

anything. You just marry the right person and it's just going to all happen in bliss. And that usually ends by the time the honeymoon's over.

You know, it doesn't take very long. And then the movie with Tom Cruise and when the line is that

you complete me, you know, and which sounds so romantic. I mean, that scene at the end when when he says that tour and all this

cuff and all the women in the room go, oh, you know, all that kind of stuff. But men, you're just

setting yourself for value because nobody complates us with Jesus. Yeah. Yeah, it's so true. I'll

never forget when Dylan and I were dating. I was like a new Christian and we were dating. He was talking

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