3 Things You Must Do To Heal After a Breakdown

Lights On with Carl Lentz

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Religion & Spirituality, Christianity, Society & Culture

4.6 • 701 Ratings

🗓️ 16 July 2025

⏱️ 41 minutes

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Summary

In this episode, Carl and Laura Lentz reveal the 3-stage healing framework that saved their marriage after infidelity and public scandal. Discover why most people never truly heal from breakdown because they skip the discovery phase, try to heal while sprinting through life, and focus on cleaning up "leaves" instead of healing the root system. Carl shares his transformative experience at Onsite therapy and why being sorry you got caught is completely different from being sorry you made destructive choices. Laura breaks down why 60-75% of couples survive infidelity when they commit to intentional repair work and how removing shame from broken commitments becomes the key to rebuilding trust. This isn't about saving face - it's about transforming the person you're becoming so you never have to repeat these patterns again.

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1:04.8	slash lights on. Hello, welcome to what lights on. Yeah. Yeah, way to hop right in there, Bob.
1:12.5	Well, you, there's a huge pause in between the clapping and then us supposed to be doing.
1:17.7	You're getting the hang of being a podcaster.
1:19.6	You know.
1:20.0	How does it feel to be a full-time podcaster?
1:23.0	People are clamoring for your podcast.
1:25.7	Well, my name isn't on the podcast. It's just lights on with Carl Lentz. Okay. So I'm not sure if that needs to change. Okay. Probably should because, and I'm not getting paid. So. Well, that's a little bit too personal. I feel like my money is your money. That's for the next episode.
1:45.3	Yeah.
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