Laughter is a great indicator of whether or not your marriage is in a good spot. And the cool thing is, is if you realize you're not laughing together, it's one of the more actionable, tangible things you can do. It can come from a place of joy. We have joy given to us in the Lord. He has given us life. That's why I don't want to use the word respect. Oh, wives should respect their husbands, but husbands should also respect their wives. You view your wife as your wife, but there is a sense in which you cross a line and you start dishonoring your wife, you start dishonoring the Lord, you start dishonoring your marriage bed. In terms of actual time it takes, it's not very long usually, is such a big part of your marriage. Listen, this is my wife. I know her character. I know she loves me. I know she is covenantally minded. I know that

she would never consciously withhold for me. Power of laughter, we call it like the secret weapon

of your marriage. If you're on your game, if your garden is completely being tended to in the area

intimacy, what's that look like for your marriage.

All right, babe.

How do you know if we have a healthy marriage?

If we're a healthy couple, what are some, are there any signs that can show us?

Or even maybe it's not us that is the unhealthy couple. Maybe it's friends around us. How can we recognize that maybe there's some health or there's some unhealth? What do you call that?

Sickness. Disfunction. If only there was a podcast episode, I was dedicated to this topic. Clearly I know the answers because I'm seeing them in front of me. However, I'm thinking about us just anecdotally. Yeah. Like how do I know when we are starting to drift? Yeah.

You know, in my mind, it always starts with communication, not just in my mind, but in our experience,

it always starts with communication gets kind of short and cold and tersh in some ways and sharp.

It just starts to break down.

It sure does.

You do that a lot.

If you gotta say it, as my wife always says.

And then that trickles into every other aspect of our marriage.

Also in my own head, like if I if I find that I'm

reading into things yeah in a way that is always kind of pitting us against each other right or it's

reading kind of the I would say with the least charitable uh voice yes then I know that there's

something in me that as now not I'm not viewing you as a

partner. Right. As a, as my spouse, as my wife. And I said I'm viewing you as a adversary

as somebody that I need to defeat in some way. Okay. Anyway, if you, if you're wondering,

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