Do you have to love yourself in order to be in a healthy relationship?

Do you have to love yourself in order to be able to love someone else?

Do you have to love yourself in order for someone else to love you that's very extreme

it's a very extreme perspective to say unless you totally love yourself then you can't be in a

relationship that's healthy or no one can love you or you're not capable of loving anyone else.

And and I believe that the inability to see one's value, the inability to love ourselves at all

is probably up there in the top two.

Maybe it's number one reason why we have so many problems in relationships, specifically

romantic relationships.

So while it is extreme to say, and I don't believe that it's true, that you can

only be in a relationship if you completely love yourself, I mean, that doesn't make any sense

because stepping into our worth, owning our worth, seeing our total value, really loving ourselves in many ways

as a lifelong journey. But we live right now and have been actually for many, many years.

We live in a culture where self-hatred is really prevalent, not being able to see your own value, really prevalent.

And what makes it really sneaky is that you can have a lot of confidence in one area of your life.

One could have confidence at work.

Someone can have healthy or high self-esteem in one area, a hobby, work, friendships. But then in other areas, they don't. And they don't actually see themselves as worthy enough of being loved by another person.

You know, you can have total confidence, let's say, at your job.

And then also have the belief that if you're not doing well at your job, then you are worthless.

And so you turn into a perfectionist or a workaholic because if you're not thriving in that area of your life, what else do you have?

This idea of self-esteem and self-worth and self-love can be somewhat confusing.

I like to think of it as self-acceptance.

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