3 Simple Questions That Put You Back in Control

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast

Civility Media

Education, Self-improvement, Society & Culture, Relationships

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🗓️ 4 November 2025

⏱️ 15 minutes

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If you’ve ever felt a conversation slip out of your control, this episode is for you. I’m walking you through exactly how to shift the power dynamic back in your favor without getting loud or defensive. I’ll show you how to use smart reset questions, how to call out intent with “Did you mean…” phrases, and why silence is often your strongest move. These three tools will help you stay composed, confident, and in control—no matter who you’re talking to. Thank you to our sponsors: Cozy Earth. Upgrade Your Every Day. Get 40% off at cozyearth.com/jefferson or use code JEFFERSON at check out. Monarch Money. 50% off your first year at https://monarchmoney.com/jefferson BetterHelp. Click https://betterhelp.com/jeffersonfisher for a discount on your first month of therapy. Order my new book, The Next Conversation, or listen to the full audiobook today. Like what you hear? Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a 5-star review! Suggest a topic or ask a question for me to answer on the show! Want a FREE communication tip each week? Click here to join my newsletter. Join My School of Communication Watch my podcast on YouTube Follow me on Instagram Follow me on TikTok Follow me on LinkedIn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Sean has had some good ideas over the years.
0:05.0	But using Canva was a really good one.
0:08.0	Sean designed some social posts to promote his friend's car boot sale.
0:13.0	They looked good.
0:15.0	Really, really good.
0:17.0	Next thing he knows, someone came and bought the loft, including the car.
0:24.5	Now Sean doesn't know how he's going to get home.
0:28.0	Thanks, Canva.
0:29.9	If you feel like you lose control in conversation more than you keep it, this episode is for you. I'm making this specifically for you.
0:42.3	What I'm going to teach you if you listen to this episode is exactly how to make sure that
0:47.8	that shift of power returns back to you. I'm going to make it short. I'm going to make it sweet
0:53.5	and it's going to work.
0:56.5	You ready? Welcome to the Jefferson Fisher podcast where I'm on a mission to make your next
1:01.0	conversation, the one that changes everything. If you would, wherever you're listening to,
1:05.4	please click the button where it says subscribe. It means a lot to me and my family and it's
1:09.8	really doesn't cost anything for you and
1:12.4	it's a promise by me in exchange to say, I'm going to make you a better communicator. And this
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