The number one skill that you need to make a relationship last if it matters to you and it's important to you is knowing how to fight.

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So before I was a monk, I had plenty of relationships. I made a lot of mistakes, had a lot of valuable experiences and learned a lot of good lessons.

And I'm sure all of you have had that experience in your own lives where you had relationships that maybe didn't go as planned, that maybe you know you could have done something better in or maybe there's once you look back on and wish you could have changed something or done something different.

Well, the best thing is and the truth is that you can make all those changes now. You can refocus now. You can make a big difference, especially if you learn from those experiences.

In today's episode on on purpose, I'm speaking on three lessons I learned from my exes. So I'm diving into my personal stories, getting super vulnerable, being super open with each and every one of you.

Like I said, I want this to be a medium where you get to know me better and I get to know you better. I want it to be an exchange. I want you to learn about me and I want to learn about you as well.

And this is the truth. It's normal and okay, when you break up with someone to have feelings of bitterness, to have feelings of blame, to have feelings of breakdown. And those are the three bees of breakups.

Usually we feel bitter, usually we shift blame and usually we experience a breakdown. And I know that all of you may have been in that experience, you've had one of those.

I'm sure we've all come to that in different times in our life, whether it's in our teens, whether it's right now in our 20s or whether it was last week, we've all experienced moments where we were extremely bitter.

We blamed other people for what had happened and we had a personal breakdown. And one of the things I want to highlight here is that we talk a lot about the pain after a breakup.

But we rarely talk about the gain after a breakup. We really talk about the breakthrough after a break up.

So when we talk about breakups, we talk about breaking down, we talk about things going badly, we talk about blame, we talk about bitterness, but we rarely talk about breakthroughs.

And this is what's fascinating that all of our energy and all of our attention starts becoming about, oh, it's so hard, it's so challenging, which very much is, and I value that and accept that.

But when we go a step further, there's a whole body of understanding around how a breakup can be a breakthrough, because sometimes the weight you want to lose isn't just on your body.

Sometimes there's weight that you need to shed in your mind, there's weight that you need to shed in your life.

And it can be so liberating and freeing when you're able to let go of people, possessions, positions, places that are weighing you down.

And so it's so important that we get to that stage and break through even after a break up.

And so these are the three things that I learned with time and perspective, don't get me wrong, I didn't learn these right away, these are three things I learned with time and perspective, and they apply to you, whether you're in a relationship or not, if you've been in one before this applies to you.

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