Hi and welcome to this week's Amazing If podcast. We're Sarah and Helen, the founders of Amazing If, a business that's all about helping people have happy careers.

This week we're going to be continuing our 10-part series on Confidence Gremlins,

where we're going to be talking about those top confidence gremlins that get in our way at work.

And this week we're focusing on people not liking you, which perhaps sounds a bit school-like.

You know, oh, they don't like me.

But actually is a really common confidence gremlin.

So people just worried about

maybe pleasing people all the time or just spent a lot of time worrying about what other people

think about you. So just before we kick off a quick reminder about what a confidence gremlin is

and really why they matter. So confidence gremlins are the things that hold us back. And by holding us back, what we

mean is they hold us back from doing a brilliant job in what we're already doing. But often they also

hold us back from taking opportunities that we're actually really interested in and ultimately kind of

doing the things that will make us really happy because often you end up shying away from great opportunities or roles that you're really

interested in because you've got these confidence gremlins that are getting in your way.

Really important and we say it every week but I think we keep saying it so that hopefully people

will believe us that everybody has confidence gremlins and people will probably only believe us when we just do keep saying it and hopefully if we keep talking

about our own ones at some point people will get the point that at least we have them if no one

else does. The real trick here is not worrying about the fact that you've got them because we all

have them is really just knowing what yours are and once you know they are, you actually then stand a chance of doing something about

them, small things step by step, so that you just get at the point where they don't hold you

back from all those things you'd love to do.

So this week, as we said, we're talking about this kind of fear that people won't like you.

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