3 Communication Mistakes That Are Making You Lose Control

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast

Civility Media

Education, Self-improvement, Society & Culture, Relationships

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🗓️ 2 September 2025

⏱️ 17 minutes

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Summary

If you’ve ever felt like a conversation got away from you, you’re not alone—we all lose control sometimes. In this episode, I’m breaking down the three biggest mistakes that cause you to give up your power without even realizing it: overexplaining, reacting too quickly, and filling every silence. I’ll show you how each of these makes you predictable and weakens your message, and I’ll give you the tools to stay calm, confident, and in control no matter who you’re talking to. Thank you to our sponsors: Cozy Earth. Upgrade Your Every Day. Get 40% off at cozyearth.com/jefferson or use code JEFFERSON at check out. Masa Chips. Get 25% off at https://www.masachips.com/pages/jefferson BetterHelp. Click https://betterhelp.com/jeffersonfisher for a discount on your first month of therapy. Order my new book, The Next Conversation, or listen to the full audiobook today. Like what you hear? Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a 5-star review! Suggest a topic or ask a question for me to answer on the show! Want a FREE communication tip each week? Click here to join my newsletter. Join My School of Communication Watch my podcast on YouTube Follow me on Instagram Follow me on TikTok Follow me on LinkedIn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Being emotional makes you predictable. When you have these big overreactions in conversation,
0:07.1	you are showing the other person where the buttons to your remote control are. Today, we're
0:12.3	going to be talking about the top three communication mistakes that are causing you to lose control.
0:17.7	Ready? Let's go. Welcome to the Jefferson Fisher podcast, where I'm on a mission
0:22.5	to make your next conversation the one that changes everything. If you enjoy learning tools
0:27.0	to improve your communication, I'm going to ask you to please find the button that says
0:30.6	subscribe wherever you're listening and click it. It's not a forever thing, but what it does is it tells
0:35.7	wherever you're listening that this is good content.
0:37.9	So my promise to you is that if you listen to these episodes and you subscribe, I'm going to make you a better communicator.
0:44.1	And that's my promise.
0:45.3	Today's podcast is sponsored by Cozy Earth.
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1:30.3	You will not regret it. And now back to the episode. Losing control is not a them problem.
1:37.4	By that, I mean, we are also very capable of losing control. And if you're one of those people,
1:44.1	just nod to yourself. Yep,
1:45.4	I can lose control. I've known for my temper to be off the handle. Maybe you're saying that to
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