So my husband Winston and I, we've been married for 15 years, and it feels like a solid chunk of time.

But in the grand scheme of things, you know, we are still green, still learning about marriage every single day.

And so today I'm going to talk about three pieces of advice that we were given when it comes to money

in marriage that really has helped us. So be sure to like, subscribe, and share this episode

with a friend. And just so you guys know, I'm always like a little hesitant to give like

parenting advice and marriage advice because I think you can change a lot. And your opinions can

change. And we do not have all the answers,

so I always, like, kind of hesitate, but this was advice that was given to us, which honestly

has helped us so much when we're looking at our money, but also other areas of our life.

So the first piece of advice was the triangle theory.

So this is where when a problem comes up, it's you and your spouse versus the

problem. So it's kind of like, looks like a triangle, right? So you and your spouse are at the bottom,

and the problem is out there because it is so easy to make your spouse the enemy. We're like,

why are you doing that? Why did you do that? But what's the actual problem

that we're looking at? And so working together to identify the issue and to look out and be like,

okay, that's the issue. So what do we do about that? And there is something really uniting about it.

It takes some tries to get down to this theory for sure, once I are not perfect at it.

But it does help because there is something about looking at a actual problem to help find the solution to that problem

versus looking at your spouse and being like, you have to fix this and fix that, or they're

looking at you and being like, fix this, fix this, fix that. And whenever I've learned this from Dr.

John Deloney, you enter into conflict and you're saying, well, you, you, you, it never really goes right. It doesn't because the other person is really defensive. And so it's always about coming back to you. But looking at the problem together out there has helped so much. So the triangle theory, you know, as an example, it's like, okay, well,

you know, one of you is like, okay, I'm going to come home from work at this time, but it never happens, right? And you're like, oh my gosh, you say that you're going to come home at this time, but you're not. And it's always later. Like, can you just give me a heads up? So looking at that as time management is the problem.

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