298: Loving the Fantasy of Someone

The Connected Life

Justin Stumvoll

Coaching, Love, Christian, Selfhelp, Christianity, Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Religion & Spirituality, Relationships, Romance, Health, Spirituality

4.9 • 2.6K Ratings

🗓️ 16 September 2024

⏱️ 64 minutes

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Summary

It’s easy to fall in love with the idea of someone. The fantasy we create in our minds is often one of very few imperfections. Unfortunately, the perfect person only exists in our imagination. Building a relationship around a fantasy cannot only be disappointing, but it can be incredibly destructive.

In this episode, Justin and Abi are joined by friend and fellow Life Consultant Rachel Hughes to discuss the world of relational fantasy known as limerence. They explore how fantasizing about who someone is can cause you to bond to the idea of them, create unrealistic expectations, perpetuate a one-sided relationship, and cause you to overlook their nuances altogether. They also delve into the importance of humanizing people and recognizing the red, yellow, and green flags we all have.

If you want to learn about a more holistic approach to relationships that will help you foster balance in the way you relate to others, this episode is right up your alley!

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0:00.0	Life isn't perfect and neither are we.
0:05.0	But we know how to face our fears and have some fun
0:10.0	and talk about all the messiest things of life.
0:13.0	Like the messiest things.
0:15.0	Get connected to yourself, get connected to others,
0:18.0	and get connected to the life right in front of you.
0:21.0	This is the connected life with Justin and Abby. That's me. That's you.
0:26.0	And you.
0:27.0	Hey friends, before we kick off this week's episode, we got a little surprise for you.
0:32.0	Yeah, we are doing a conference on boundaries for free.
0:37.0	We want to invite you.
0:38.0	Say what?
0:39.0	I know.
0:40.0	We want to invite you to come learn about boundaries while we have none.
0:43.2	No, I'm just kidding. But we want you to be able to be a part of it. We have a school, the Life
0:48.8	Insulting Masterclass, it's a three-year program and every year we do conferences where there's a deep dive
0:54.4	on different subjects and this year we're inviting you to join the school for
0:59.9	the conference on Boundaries it'll be interactive, it'll be
1:02.6	fun, it'll be empowering. Yeah, it's going to be a really good time and it's
1:07.4	October 18th and 19th, Friday and a Saturday. All you have to do is go to
1:11.6	Justin and Abbey, that's ABI.com slash boundaries and you can get all the extra details there you can sign up for it. We'll
1:18.7	We'll send you a little something in your email and check your spam.
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