#297 How Romcoms Gave Us Unrealistic Breakup Expectations
Heal Your Heartbreak
Break Up Bestie
4.8 • 744 Ratings
🗓️ 25 November 2025
⏱️ 31 minutes
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Summary
In today’s solo episode, I’m diving deep into a topic that’s come up a lot in the background of other episodes, but today I’m bringing it all together—what romcoms got wrong about breakups and relationships. I talk through five major themes that 90s and early 2000s romantic comedies sold us—like the myth of the “one that got away,” why fighting isn’t proof of love, the trope of getting back with toxic exes, finding your soulmate right after a breakup, and the classic “revenge glow-up.” I share examples from some of my all-time favorite movies, break down why these storylines gave us such unrealistic expectations, and offer my thoughts on how these narratives impact our healing after a breakup. If you grew up watching these films and ever compared your breakup story to a romcom, this episode is for you!
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| 0:00.0 | If you are looking for even more help and guidance on your breakup, I have a few different |
| 0:04.2 | options for you to take your healing to the next level. I have four different online courses |
| 0:08.7 | depending on what stage of the breakup that you're in from beginning all the way into moving |
| 0:13.5 | on after heartbreak, or you can bundle all of my courses together and use the code podcast |
| 0:18.6 | to get $25 off my course bundle. |
| 0:21.8 | I also have my 30-day no-contact challenge to help hold you accountable in going no |
| 0:26.1 | contact with your ex. |
| 0:27.7 | And we have our free Facebook group, Healing Hearts Club, where you can connect with other |
| 0:31.4 | people going through breakups all over the world. |
| 0:34.2 | To learn more about any of these resources, head to the show notes where you can learn more |
| 0:38.2 | about my courses, take the quiz to figure out which course is best for you, or join the Facebook |
| 0:43.0 | group. And don't forget to use the code podcast to get $25 off my course bundle. |
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| 0:54.6 | dot-cote-Uk-Slust Wondery. That's audible.combe.combe. Welcome to the heal your heartbreak |
| 1:07.4 | podcast with your host, Breakup Bestie, aka me, Kendra. |
| 1:12.5 | Breakups are hard, but you don't have to do it alone. Each week, I will be taking you |
| 1:17.3 | through a different topic as it relates to breaking up, healing from heartbreak, growing in |
| 1:22.7 | your single life, dating, and getting back into happier and healthier relationships. |
| 1:28.4 | The goal of this show is to provide support, hope, tips, and to remind you that above all, |
| 1:35.5 | this too shall pass. |
| 1:40.1 | Welcome back to another solo episode of the Hill Your Heartbreak podcast. |
| 1:43.8 | I'm really excited for today's solo episode. |
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